If a person gets remarried 6 months after a divorce. It only shows that person cannot handle being alone in life. That person is so insecure. They think they have to always have a wife or husband. I even think a year is to soon to remarry or settle down after a divorce.
You're absolutely right Crystal3d
6 months is waaay too soon even if you've never been divorced. It takes a few years to truly know someone and if the mother's sons are spoiled that prob means she isn't raising them properly and that another whole can of worms- Just because you like someone or even LOVE them does not mean you have to get married.
If you don't like her kids, you probably shouldn't marry her yet until you get to know them better and see if you can get along with them. I don't care what she or you may say or think, but they are part of the package you are marrying in to so you have to adjust accordingly. If it doesn't work out, then there is no marriage. If the kids can't or won't accept you into their family - there is a problem. They will resent their mother as a result for her decision. What makes you think they are spoiled? Do they act towards you in a negative way? Are you sure you are just not perceiving them that way because they are not your own? Do you have children of your own that you may have raised differently? Or is the prospect of a 3rd marriage that is making you hesitant and projecting it onto her children??? I just think that you are not ready. Just be honest with her and tell you how you feel to avoid any future turmoil and heartache for the sake of yourself and hers.
I'm not totally wrapping my head around "especially if the mother's sons are spoiled?"<br />
Are you refering to the new husband to be as spoiled? His kids?<br />
Sorry, I need clarity.<br />
If it's referring to the man you want to marry; are you sure you can put up with that?<br />
Are you gonna spoil him as well?
Oh, okay. Thank you.
You are asking for a world of trouble, if she's not on board with diciplin. May as well write up the divorce plans now....
I wish you the best!
*Discipline. Sorry I misspelled that.
May God Bless (and guide) you as well.
SIX YEARS would be "too soon", after a 2nd divorce!! WTF??
I could not agree more youneeda.
yes- you dont know her!
Way so soon. You've already been through 2 marriages, so why jump so fast into another?
Gold digging comes too mind.. WITHOUT the metal detector and shovel
Yeah. On someone else's claim. After going broke on two others already.
Lmao I think ba<x>sed on the last part of ur question it may b too early
In my opinion 6 months is WAY TOO EARLY to marry after a second divorce. Why not try dating for a while and saving together for the deposit on a house. When you have saved enough money to move into your home THEN get married if you both still want to. She may not still want to. You may not want to either. This exercise will give you time to get to know her and how responsible she is with money, her children and long term commitment.
Yes go back to your first wife and make amends and work on reconciling.
There is a couple of things that could be done: counselling and learning forgiveness.
Yes unfaithfulness is cause for divorce, but does not give permission to remarry. Your first wife (assuming she was never before married) will always remain your wife, divorced or not. ONLY death can break the marriage covenant between 2 never before married persons.
Out of the frying pan and into the fire. 'Sounds like you're a glutton for punishment. But if the sex is really great I guess you have no choice but to go for it man!
of course he has a choice! THere is NO reason to marry the b*t*h!!!! IT's not 1944.
youneeda: All sarcasm aside, I agree with you.
yes in my opinion I think you're rushing into things too quickly. Maybe you should wait a little while and get to know him a little better and be with him some more before you get married to him. At least wait a year and see what happens, and then if it still works out then you could get marry to him.
Sons aside, yes. Take a year before you commit to any kind of long-term relationship.