After leaving a emotional abusive relationship why do I feel worse? Why is it so hard to move on? Why is he so happy?
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Posted by loveispatient34 Dec 21st, 2012 at 11:09PM
because you loved him and you tried so hard to make it work out but you couldnt - you cant work anything out with those who abuse others - they think their way is the only way - but its best just to move on because he is not worth the time - find someone better or focus on yourself at the moment
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Posted by GREGG2012 Feb 16th, 2012 at 2:34PM
ANYONE feels a "loss" when something familiar and routine is suddenly lost! It is an actual form of "grief" that you are witnessing. Just like someone's death, you must remember ONLY the good times, but put them where they belong, in the past and leave them there. You have been traumatized in many ways and it's gonna take some time to re-adjust to a "normal" life once again. I would say, pack your life with soooooooooooo much to do that you completely engulf yourself in, ..... well, yourself! Grab a hold of your new found freedom and hold on with both hands, NEVER to let go!!
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Posted by hawkins01607 Feb 16th, 2012 at 2:07PM
oh puuullleezzzz
you could be the one who is emotionally abusive, babe, not him
he is sighing relief these days probably
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Posted by Coyotedave611 Feb 16th, 2012 at 1:38PM
His being "happy" is probably based more on a perception than reality. Look at this as an opportunity to build your own self-image (as steve43 mentioned)...take an inventory of your behavioral STRENTHS, and start building on them. Nurture that which is good about yourself, you will eventually break the cycle of attracting abusive types. It only appears that you are not "moving on"...life is alway's a progression mabe not linear at times. Happiness will come. Good luck.
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Posted by hopeimfree Feb 16th, 2012 at 1:35PM
because you became emotionally dependent on him. you felt that by being in that relationship you could validate who you were and are. its only when you leave that relationship that you figure out that you were looking to others to feel like you were you. once you are away from the abusive relationship it takes day by day to figure out who you are. its gonna take time and you will have bad and good days. but as time goes on and your self esteem and self worth improves you will wonder what the hell you were ever doign with taht person. good luck and stay strong.
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Posted by SoulSucker Feb 16th, 2012 at 1:31PM
Because he hurt you and that's all he really wanted to do.
You feel worse because you allowed yourself to get into a situation like that--I'm assuming you were like me and thought you would never let anyone treat you like that. When I left my abusive ex (physically, emotionally, verbally, and sexually abusive) I was extremely depressed, but it wasn't because I left him--it's because I endured so much torment that it broke me for a while.
Just give yourself time to heal, knowing that you did the right thing by leaving him--NEVER look back fondly upon him, because he doesn't deserve your positive thoughts.
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Posted by BabzEsq24 Feb 16th, 2012 at 1:30PM
You get used to the pain- like it's a binky- He's an abuser- there is no such attachment- he's thinking of the next victim
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