I'm sad to hear about all of that drama but where is ur hubby in all of this?
Tell m jog on thats wat i say :)
They have mixed feelings. They still care about you in some way. They are not strong enough to walk away 100 percent
Its partly ego, thinking they are somehow a little superior, and partly denial that they are responsible for the damage they did.
I am sorry you have been through that. You can't do much about someone not acknowledging the damage they did, but you can now try, not to let them do any more. Good luck.