Agree or disagree: women marry him to change and he doesn't; men marry expecting her not to, and she does.
9 Answers to "Agree or disagree: women marry him to change and he doesn't; men marry expecting her not to, and she does."
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Somewhat true.
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Yes, and both of them make a terrible mistake doing so...
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I think that both men and women have a problem in that both tend to see what they want to...they fall in love with an expectation or an image. This means that women will overlook certain things that should actually be red flags. Women tend to diminish those in their minds, thinking that love will make them go away or mute them. Men seem to see more what they want to see in a woman, assuming that life together will be like dating life, with all of the same freedoms. And it's true, they often seem to resent women who have certain day to day needs or who actually age. Their images of how married life will be aren't very closely attuned to the give and take of marriage reality.
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ABSOLUTELY CORRECT as much as I saw.
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wow, is this really what goes on in peoples heads? why not be satisfied with WHO THEY ARE as a person ? for reals man. be yourself, youre bound to find true love then / have it find you. I mean, not to say change for the better as in GROW but to hide behind some false facade ? thats not luxuriating.
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I think it's somewhat true.
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It was the other way around for me.
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Agree! From a very young age a girl is taught that the way to rise in status is to marry the right man. A change in a man's ability would indicate an increase in his ability to rise in status.
A young man is taught to marry a young woman that will not be a hindrance to his ability to rise to the apex of his ability. An unexpected change in her would cause him to refocus on the change, to the detriment of his attention to the rise of his status!Like (1)
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Posted by SuicidalChick Jan 10th, 2012 at 7:54AM
In some respects this is true, in others not so much. Everyone changes at some point in their life. Sometimes for the good and some for the bad. Women ask men to change, a lot. Men also ask women NOT to change a lot. These things happen.
Men change when the woman doesn't want him too and the men don't want the woman to change and she does. Could work both ways.
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Reply by smallG Feb 3rd, 2012 at 12:37AM
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