I had twins like that. I made a playroom and sat with them. Whenever it was time to leave the playroom, we played a game called, now it time to pick up toys ( sung to the tune of Mary had a little lamb).
Teach the child to clean & pick-up by making a game of it :)<br />
(from experience, you aren't doing them a favor by doing it for them; then they expect it and will expect their spouse to clean after them!)
Maybe she needs more personal time with you.
It's great you are teaching her to clean-keep it up :) Don't nag her about 'your-standards,' that will turn her away; give her a reason to want to do it. Now give her the cloth to get the toothpaste off and follow-up with letting her repot the plants and sweep the dirt into a dust pan.
Have you thought to section-off a quarter of her bedroom that she can do what she wants? Maybe paint one section of the wall with chalk-board-paint? Get her a canvas to smear the toothpaste on...etc...
Try to think of it as a part of your fitness regimen! :D
Raising a child does present occasional frustrations - we were all once children. If you can keep your calm, I'm sure she will learn tidiness - after a time. Ask your mother how she coped with her daughter's clutter. :)
I wish I could be more helpful. She'll only be young a short time - let love overwhelm the frustrations. (hugs)
Lock the child in a closet.
Make sure everything has a "place". Storage is key! Toy boxes, cabinets and shelves where everything goes. I work full time and my wife stays home with our son but I am a neat freak so I spend 15-20 minutes a day putting the house back together in the morning or evening. My wife cleans here and there when she has time and then every other weekend I clean the house top to bottom. I had a professional cleaning person show me how to clean our house quickly and effectively so I can do it in less than three hours. Dishes and kitchen cleaned every day. Bills and paperwork filed in cabinet ASAP. Good luck!
Solution = Don't even bother tidying when kids are around haha <br />
Serious, it's like counting sand in a storm and as long as it's clean then untidy doesn't matter 😉
LOL Or when you're both artists who save everything because it might come in handy later
Redefine your definition of "tidy"...it's never going to be perfect with a kid around, i am satisfied if there's no toys in my walking path, no food or juice boxes in random places
Humans a wrecking balls should not mate. <br />
Now you have a wrecking ball child.
Pull out the leaf blower!
wait until said child is asleep
Keep the child in one room
cage the wee beast near a TV with a select few of it's favorite things to destroy