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gypsymae gypsymae 31-35, F 29 Answers Feb 26, 2010

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Yes, you are doing the right thing, you do not have to take verbal abuse, get out now before it gets worse or something happens. Get counseling and demand it for your husband if he wants to get back together with you...from my own experience bank I tell you this, it might not work, he might never stop, but for the children this is the right thing.

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i'm impressed that you had the courage to do what's best for yourself, and especially your kids. this way, they won't grow up to be just like him. good luck!

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Leave immediately. He verbally abuses you only because you let him. Verbal abuse more often than not turns into physical abuse. You have to take the responsibility to remove your children from a dysfunctional family situation that could have negative lifelong effects upon them. Demand respect and don't return until or if you get it from your husband. Don't give him power and control over your life - you only have one life and time shouldn't be wasted in living this way. If your husband does not change (before you return) then make a fulfilling life for you and your children. Time is precious and it shouldn't be wasted on drama like this

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I had to do the same 10 years ago. It's not easy, but it does get better. In time you will come to see that you definitely made the right decision. Whether they're boys, you don't want them growing up thinking it's okay to treat women this way. If girls, you don't want them growing up thinking that it's acceptable for a man to treat them this way. The bottom line is that abuse is UNACCEPTABLE no matter what the case! NO MAS ABUSO! You're a good Mom! You're doing what's right for both your children and yourself. You're a strong woman and a loving mother. I wish you all the best and will pray for you. God Bless............

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YES!!!

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Yes. Anything you can do to get away from and out of that situation will be beneficial.

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I left 10 years ago and had four kids to look after. Emotional and verbal abusers are so much more devious and clever than a man who punches. The drip drip effect can cause you long lasting damage. As soon as I knew I could leave because of verbal abuse I left. It may be hard for you and the kids but it is better to be on your own than with the wrong person. It will be a relief not to be so on edge and guarded. Best of luck hon and big hugs.

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absolutely, as well as protecting yourseslf, you are a mother...you must set the example for your children....of course they will learn that your husband's abuse is NOT okay, and the three of you will be stronger for your courageous (yes, courageous) action...if you become weak and miss him or wonder if you did the right thing, just look at your children...they are depending on YOU and YOU deserve better treatment, always, always, remember that being abused is NOT what you deserve. strength to you darlin' , stay strong.

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yes you are its better than to wait around until it gets physical and if hes verbaly abusing you he will also do it to the kids if he has not already. its normal to feel a little remorse about it but i promise you will get over it thumbs up to you not many woman have the strength to leave its best for your kids

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Yes, verbal abuse is very harmful to you and your mentally developing children. Do not feel sorry for your husband, he made his bed, he needs this, it could make or break him but do not concider taking him back, people tend to revert back to old ways even if they have realized and changed out of habbit. You are strong in this decision therefore you will do very well, have no regrets and know you deserve a life with respect

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Yes you are doing the right thing not only for yourself but for your two kids also. You don't want them growing up thinking that it is okay to be abused by someone or end up being abusers themselves.

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Formerly a psych. nurse, counselor, there are some facts that are undisputed; first verbal effects entire family and usually escalates to physical, if no counseling is attended or outwardly rejected. It commonly shifts to children, either directly ie. they become targets or indirectly ie. become accustomed to any tolerance you show and will unknowingly pick up. This can be directed at you, peers, authority or become prominent in relationships with friends and/or mates.No type of abuse is acceptable behavior. It may be a result of primary family ie. parents daily interactions where tolerated and thus incorporated as considered " no big thing, your prob." Never true, only you know the duration, familial reactions and repercussions. Seek counseling for yourself if feel trapped or frozen; fact that you are even posing question, sugests you already know answer and are merely seeking validation/permission. If torn about family separation, remind self you cannot keep others safe if you are not. Safety first is primary directive. If wish to discuss issue and feel uncomfortable sharing in front of large group, please feel free to pm. I'll be here! Remember be an example for children, not whipping post or ultimately a victim. Not that you are not already! Hope helps, get help, stay and keep all safe. Drop line anytime!

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Only you can know, my advice to you is, if your gut instinct is to go then you are doing the right thing.<br />
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I wish you and your family a safe and happy future.<br />
Maybe just maybe this will be the kick in the butt your husband needs to get some help with any issues he may have. <br />
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Be well and stay safe.

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absolutely you are, if your husband doesn't want to deal with the issues that make him do that then you need to get out of there. You need to do it for yourself and your children beccause your husband may start verbally abusing them as well. Also, if you have sons and they see your husband treating you in such a way they could possibly end up following that example later on in life. And plus, you don't deserve that.

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you do what you think is right for you and the kids, none of us can say as we don't know you<br />
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good luck with your decision

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Yes! You are doing the right thing! Stick with it and follow through! It could save your life. Blessings be with you. Be strong, you'll get through this a wiser more whole person. I'm vibing you good energy and strength!

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If u hav any way 2 grow urself nd ur child then it is ok nd other thing is that if it is 1st time with ur hubby then u shuld hav 2 giv him 1 chance

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You ARE doing the right thing. No one needs to abuse anyone else. It is not right or necessary. It is wrong. It's doesn't matter who gets abused, or what the reason is, which there is no reason. <br />
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My advise to anyone, who is verbally abused, is to leave as fast as you can, and stay away from that person, forever.<br />
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Women would not be abused, if they would leave those who abuse them. Even if they only raise their voice, leave them.

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You are absolutely doing the right thing for your children. Taking them out of that situation will save them. You are their hero and even though it will be hard, your strength will carry you through this difficult time. <br />
Remember, the love of your children is always more important than anger, or fear. <br />
My thoughts are with you.<br />
Sending you and your two angels peace love & light.

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