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Am I paranoid? Dont know what to think?

I have recently cut off a friend of two years, we stopped getting along as i cannot stand him anymore. He has this weird thing with me where he hates me doing things of my own accord, and he gets the hump if i go and do something else other than go and see him. I've had enough, the guy is too cynical i am deflated anytime i spend time with him

The thing with him is he is a shorty and definitely suffering from some kind of napoleon complex. He likes to think he is more wordly and knowledgable than everyone else and often enforces his opinions and tastes and holds a grudge if you disagree or show him up in any way. He is quite imposing and i hated having to hang with someone that i need to tiptoe around

He thinks a lot of himself and is shocked at my decision to stop hanging out. I know how he thinks and it feels as though he is desperate to make some kind of impact on me or my life

What's going on? Am i being paranoid?

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You know, you might do him a favor by explaining to him why you don't want to hang with him anymore. It would take a lot of tact to do it without being a real jerk, and you'd have to mention the good things about him, and tell him that no one things that much about his height but him. He needs to find himself a short woman - easy enough to do - and leave you alone.

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candy100	Posted Aug 12th, 2009 at 12:30PM Nooo, you are not being paranoid as I see it. You are taking care of yourself by removing yourself from somone who has nothing to give but a lot to take. I would not choose to be around anyone that I need to tiptoe around and feel deflated from being around. You are bing smart. Hold your ground and stay away from mr. napoleon complex. Rated: +2Vote for this!
redflame	Posted Aug 12th, 2009 at 12:30PM You want to surround yourself with people that make a positive impact to your life, not a negative one. People that give you happiness and inspire you. Best not to have people that toxify your life... they just bring you down. Rated: +2Vote for this!
porkchopsandwich	Posted Aug 12th, 2009 at 12:30PM Move on. Forget him. Rated: +2Vote for this!
lost12345	Posted Aug 11th, 2009 at 8:43AM Paranoid about what? You rejected your friend, he of course thought of himself as your friend so being shunned he thinks you have made a mistake. think about it if it was vice versa... wouldn't you think he would be crazy to give you up as a friend. He is harmless and he is just hurt by your decision. However, life is too short to be around people who bring you down so you made the right choice to drop him. Rated: +1Vote for this!
humptydumpty85	Posted Aug 11th, 2009 at 8:47AM you are not being paranoid at all. what your thinking sounds about right. .... {i like to call it the ''tom cruise'' complex}..... :) Rated: +1Vote for this!
leopard79	Posted Aug 11th, 2009 at 10:47AM Only cut someone off if you really despise them, otherwise just ease off and stop spending as much time around them, you may find you regret it later as there must have been somethin you liked in the 1st place to of been mates wi him. Rated: +1Vote for this!
idolno1	Posted Aug 11th, 2009 at 11:08AM Have you tried explaining what you've just explained to us? Giving him a chance to change his controlling ways. Sit him down, tell him everything you DON'T like about what he does. See if he understands and will try not to do those things anymore and that from time to time you'll be reminding him when he does it again. Give him an ultimatum to either change or your gone cause you can't live like that anymore. If he refuses your gone. At least you can say you've tried. Rated: +1Vote for this!

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