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Am I the only woman who feels hurt and unattractive when my husband would rather look at other nude or half nude women?

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    SpiritOfTheRabbit - 31-35 years old - female

    Posted by SpiritOfTheRabbit Aug 16th, 2012 at 2:38PM

    Honey, it's not you. Men just like to look at nude women. Doesn't really even matter if they're attracted to them or not.

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  1. sadafteralltheseyears - 36-40 years old - female

    Reply by sadafteralltheseyears Aug 16th, 2012 at 3:01PM

    And women just want to feel attractive, so if we aren't getting that from the man who is supposed to love us, what is to keep us from seeking it elsewhere?

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  2. SpiritOfTheRabbit - 31-35 years old - female

    Reply by SpiritOfTheRabbit Aug 16th, 2012 at 3:06PM

    Nothing is stopping you.

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16 Answers to "Am I the only woman who feels hurt and unattractive when my husband would rather look at other nude or half nude women?"

  1. JaneD0ugh - 46-50 years old - female

    Posted by JaneD0ugh Aug 16th, 2012 at 2:39PM

    Probably not the only one, but you shouldn't feel that way, as he apparently is only "Looking"!

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  2. aero56 - 56-60 years old - female

    Reply by aero56 Jan 20th, 2013 at 10:44AM

    Doesn't matter. "Looking" is disrespectful to a wife. It hurts us and makes us feel like we aren't good enough.

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  3. RandomChick21 - 18-21 years old - female

    Posted by RandomChick21 Aug 16th, 2012 at 2:37PM

    You are a very beautiful women... never let no man lower you self a stem and no your not the only one.

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  4. gamermikelds - 22-25 years old - male

    Posted by gamermikelds Aug 16th, 2012 at 3:03PM

    It goes both ways. I don't look at that garbage, and never intend to. I would hope any woman I date would be the same. There is **** for women after all.

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  5. GTR1400 - 61-65 years old - male

    Posted by GTR1400 Aug 16th, 2012 at 2:39PM

    That is quite understandable. Especially if you are otherwise enticing to him.

    But, men are more direct and visual, and men, too, can feel undesirable by their spouse's behavior or apparent lack of interest in them.

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  6. aero56 - 56-60 years old - female

    Reply by aero56 Jan 20th, 2013 at 10:45AM

    I try to look good every single day for my man. I dress in various ways, and he still looks.

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  7. GTR1400 - 61-65 years old - male

    Reply by GTR1400 Jan 20th, 2013 at 5:56PM

    His loss. I enjoy looking at my wife, and on a narrow trail, while hiking or skiing she sets the pace and I enjoy the view. Alas, I wish she enjoyed looking at me in that way.

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  8. azaliea - 51-55 years old - female

    Posted by azaliea Aug 16th, 2012 at 2:37PM

    yes

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  9. spooky8 - 41-45 years old - male

    Posted by spooky8 Aug 16th, 2012 at 2:36PM

    That's just rude and disrespectful, seriously

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  10. Introspective802 - 22-25 years old - male

    Posted by Introspective802 Aug 16th, 2012 at 3:10PM

    If both people in the relationship are doing what they need to, there should be no need for it. Maybe you should tell him how it makes you feel.

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  11. Cutezombiedoll - 18-21 years old - female

    Posted by Cutezombiedoll Aug 16th, 2012 at 2:44PM

    I can understand being upset, but then he probably does find you attractive. I think guys look at **** as something of a routine. You know, "Get home from work, fire up the PC, jerk off to ****, go about my day."

    Obviously, it would be nice if my significant other never looked at women in magazines or watched **** on the internet, but come on, I can't compete with photoshop and plastic surgery. Guys know **** is fake, they just need something nice to look at while they jerk. Any guy who thinks that **** is real is in for a huge shock when they loose their V-card.

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  12. weapon33 - 26-30 years old - male

    Posted by weapon33 Aug 16th, 2012 at 2:38PM

    First I am a man,

    I think its facetious to assume your husband looks at *********** (I must assume this by the description) because he doesn't find you attractive (though i is possible, I don't know him). I personally look at *********** because I'm left sexually unsatisfied by my wife and have no other recourse, though I am wholeheartedly attracted to her.

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  13. Cutezombiedoll - 18-21 years old - female

    Reply by Cutezombiedoll Aug 16th, 2012 at 2:40PM

    Isn't saying "I feel unsatisfied by you" just as insulting, even if you add "But I still find you hot"? How would you feel if she said that about you.

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  14. towhead2 - 41-45 years old - male

    Reply by towhead2 Aug 16th, 2012 at 2:45PM

    I know what what weapon33 is trying to say. Anger and resentment due to lack of understanding of both person's needs and feelings is not the answer.

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  15. aero56 - 56-60 years old - female

    Posted by aero56 Jan 20th, 2013 at 10:49AM

    No, you certainly are not the only woman who feels this way. A lot of women are afraid to speak up about it to their husbands, because it is a "guy thing" and "guys just do it" . Bull! Your husband should keep his visual exploits for you and only you.

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  16. littlestars - 26-30 years old - female

    Posted by littlestars Dec 5th, 2012 at 1:23AM

    No you are not the only one

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  17. crazychica369 - 22-25 years old - female

    Posted by crazychica369 Dec 5th, 2012 at 12:21AM

    No you are not but it is rude/disrespectful noneless to say.

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  18. AmieLou76 - 36-40 years old - female

    Posted by AmieLou76 Aug 16th, 2012 at 2:45PM

    I think, if you're a close pair, that there's no problem with being open with your partner and just looking.... If he feels comfortable enough to look in front of you, then you have no worries at all.... If there's anything to hide from you, then he's not being allowed to be himself.... I for one think that women who force their partners to hide stuff that's harmless, are potentially setting themselves up for more secrets. Enjoy his honesty.

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  19. sadafteralltheseyears - 36-40 years old - female

    Reply by sadafteralltheseyears Aug 16th, 2012 at 3:07PM

    I thought we were very close, but this is always hidden and discovered by accident.

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  20. aero56 - 56-60 years old - female

    Reply by aero56 Jan 20th, 2013 at 10:46AM

    Harmless? To who?

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  21. questionWeaver - 51-55 years old - male

    Posted by questionWeaver Aug 16th, 2012 at 2:40PM

    Hi SadAfter . . . chuckling . . . check back with me . . . but after two weeks here . . . your husband will be jealous of all the offers you are receiving . . . now THAT will change the paradigm! . . . . but I must ask . .. what are you going to do with all the offers?

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  22. sadafteralltheseyears - 36-40 years old - female

    Reply by sadafteralltheseyears Aug 16th, 2012 at 3:10PM

    LOL! I'm just here for friendly interaction.

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  23. magnumbunny - 36-40 years old - male

    Posted by magnumbunny Aug 16th, 2012 at 2:40PM

    did they have big boobies??

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  24. sadafteralltheseyears - 36-40 years old - female

    Reply by sadafteralltheseyears Aug 16th, 2012 at 3:10PM

    I think he is more of a butt man from what I have seen. LOL!

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