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Am not able to forget her , what should i do ?

i tried everythin i could .. am doin excercises goin out with fends .. the worst part is am keepin my cell switch off and on for hours .. am just messed up myself .. i want to call her .. want to knw how she is .. but the fck shes not at all concerned about me .. it hurts .. what should i do ? WHAT ABOUT THE 3 YEARS RELATION WE SHARED ..

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The key is not to concentrate on the situation itself, but the themes apparent within the situation. If you continually go over the details of whats happen you get lost within it. What you should consider is that the fact that you care so much about whats going on, what does that say about you? It shows you place a lot of value in relationships and thats something that will ensure that whatever happens with this one, the next one wont be far away. Also, I have to ask, has she tried contacting you? If the answers no then it is unlikely that she is feeling as you do. There is simply no point in mourning something that has past, the only result is further detriment to yourself, be brave sweetheart! recognise the wonderfully qualities within yourself, be grateful for the things you've learnt from this relationship but try your hardest to move on. The only way you get rid of old negative energy is by being open to letting in the new, and have faith that it will be positive!! much love hun x

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imahag	Posted May 30th, 2009 at 1:15PM Relax. If it's meant to be it will be. You don't know what's around the corner and everything is for a reason. Also, the best revenge is living well! Rated: +3Vote for this!
gee	Posted May 30th, 2009 at 10:04AM you could try to get in touch. like someone above just said, that could backfire but a stronger "no" from her might actually be helpful in moving away. but i know very well the pain of that. i'm presently asking the same advice and there are always conflicting choices. others i've gotten over i hardly remember now. for me, this has been lingering for 3 years and i think i'll never forget so who am i to give advice? i just think that if you are single, when you least expect it, someone very nice will put that last fire out once and for all. it will happen. just struggle thru it for now and look at your struggle as your morning commute to work or getting tired of having peanut butter for breakfast every morning or having to do the laundry or wash your toilet. those tasks do get done... and unknown better things finally arrive Rated: +3Vote for this!
EricS	Posted May 30th, 2009 at 9:07AM You are young, and this is part of how things go. You hurt, lose sleep, don't eat, cry, and suck it the **** up and move on. At your age, it happens this way for a reason. Learning about yourself, and what you need and want. Think about you, not her. You are what is important right now. You have the rest of your life to think about women...and you will. Rated: +2Vote for this!
koyptakh	Posted May 30th, 2009 at 9:11AM Hi Do not forget her. Create a place for her in your mind to visit sometimes but mark it ex girlfriend and do not be sad just happy for the good times. Then get on with your life and in time find a new girlfriend. That my friend is as good as it gets. Best wishes :) Rated: +2Vote for this!
LawRaJayne	Posted May 30th, 2009 at 8:50AM Sometimes it's hard. How do you know that she's not concerned? Maybe you should try and call her. You'll never know otherwise. If it all backfires, the best thing you can do is move on. No-one said it would be easy. but that's life. Rated: +1Vote for this!
silentvoices	Posted May 30th, 2009 at 9:09AM Replace her .. many are available Rated: +1Vote for this!
jend1979	Posted May 30th, 2009 at 9:17AM You'll never forget... I know you wish you could, but you won't. What you need to do is what you're doing right now. Get out, stay active. My advice is actually to not call her. Why? Because if the answer is not what you want, you'll be starting again afrom square one. I know it hurts, and I know you feel like you can't breathe, and I know you keep hoping that there will be a message, an email, or something. It will pass, I promise, but it's going to take some time. Just hang in there, sweetheart. I think quite possibly one of the worst pains is a broken heart, but you WILL heal. Just keep living, don't forget to have fun, and maybe take up a new hobby that you guys didn't share together, something that's all yours. Good luck. Rated: +1Vote for this!
SonicReducer75	Posted May 30th, 2009 at 9:50AM I'm in a similar boat - I'm trying to forget someone, for months now. It hurts, it sucks, it is suffering. I'm out there trying to meet new women and have fun. Doesn't always work, but you gotta try. I'll never forget her, but I'm trying to just look ahead to the future. Rated: +1Vote for this!
Duana	Posted May 30th, 2009 at 10:28AM wow- how unfair that you gave her so much more than she gave you. There are women out there who will adore you and love you just as much back- just realize this- there are women who actually deserve you! Rated: +1Vote for this!
crazylakeldy	Posted May 30th, 2009 at 11:03AM Just hang in there.Things happentous to help us grow and learn about ourseves.You are young and this is part of living.I have gone through this myself and I have a special place in my heart for my exes.You will find that with time things will get better for you and you will meet The One!!! Be thankfull for the time you had together,but also don't linger on the bad.It is hard right now,but you will come out of this a wiser and stronger person. Rated: +1Vote for this!
kylae77	Posted May 30th, 2009 at 12:22PM think about her, think about her, think about her. I think the problem is not that you're thinking about her but that it HURTS to think about her. Only time will get rid of that. eventually you will start to get tired of thinking about her and your heart will wander away to something else. I don't think you can force it too much, until you go throuh what you're feeling & the grief cycle, sort things out and then you'll naturally be ready to move on. Rated: +1Vote for this!
c8lorraine	Posted May 30th, 2009 at 1:18PM Get caught up in activities.....heaps of hobbies, courses at local college and also go out with friends in groups rather than couples for a while. Watch insanely funny movies and get laughing again ! It Works Rated: +1Vote for this!
socialfail	Posted May 31st, 2009 at 12:17AM Sharing you just may be my new role model, think about the bad things she did to you write them down and remember you are better off without her. Think about how she has moved on and is making you feel miserable. She may even be laughing about you ef her! Maybe after you have gotten over her you can think positively about her, but now is not that time. Rated: +1Vote for this!

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