I'm not single. but I believe that
They're rare as unicorns, although you'll find lots of really big gals will happily settle for any man that will have them. Sad fact is that women are as hardwired as men... wealth and success mean better care for their offspring, so that's what they want, whether they admit it or not.
I do believe this but I also know that I am attracted to some things and not attracted to other things. Example I am 35 w/kids. I will not be attracted to a man who wants to be a playboy or doesn't want to work or wants & needs me to care for him financially and too much emotionally. I like a mans man. But honest consistent work is fine.
I'm sorry, I didn't know where your comments are...I don't think an answer is all that simple. Yes, of course it's more about who he is, BUT it's also about does he respect himself enough to achieve the things in life he wants? Not necessarily material things. There is a difference with having nothing because you think you will fail at an opportunity to make a good living or having nothing because you like simplicity. Also, making a decent living is equated with taking care of the woman in your life ie..a solid roof over her head, reliable transportation for her..etc.<br />
Personally, I prefer someone who is content with who he is..and has confidence in himself. I find that extremely comforting in a relationship.
I know I should not say this, but I will...women are shallow..(of course not all, but compared to men they take the cake!) so you are probably correct in thinking your choices may be wrong. It's a shame to find someone's true character when things start to falter yet in my opinion, that is who the person really is and sometimes it takes a death or financial decline to see it. :)
don't you believe it
Yes, I believe in that. I also believe that who he is sucks also so I know longer date men.