Remain calm. Go on with your life, your no good to him if your a basket case. Respect yourself and take care of yourself. Do not have children, because your lonely. Keep good company and do not associate with those who say it is ok to play if he is away. As far as care packages, ask him what he wants. Do not send illegal stuff. It will get him in trouble.
Get with other wife's, girlfriends in his unite. They are your support group and have way better advice than I.
And a better spell checker
buy lots of tissues