Are people just faithful when there's a ring?

A ring is merely a tangible symbol of commitment, whether your relationship is open or not.

Your girlfriend is attempting to blame you for her own lack of self-control. Chances are that if you have talked this out, and she promises to be more committed, then give her a chance. If she repeats the breach of trust, then break it off, because she is likely untrustworthy, period.

Ummm....I'm not sure I understand your question. If you're not crazy about commitment then why are you worked up about your gf cheating on you? What gave you the idea that you can be a relationship without commitment for the first few months? If there is no commitment, it's not a relationship and commitment begins when both parties decide that they want to be exclusive - that could take a day, a year or 10 years.

the ring has nothing to do with it..its just her sorry attempt at blaming you..

A relationship should be faithful from the start, unless both parties are comfortable with some level of open relationship. I might understand her doubting your commitment to her if you had been with her several years and had no discussion about marriage, but after just a few months that is not the case. She is playing power games with you, but would not be unfaithful if she truly loved you. Sorry, I see no future got you with this girl.

If a person is going to cheat ,a ring won`t stop them. Once 2 people are in a relationship they should be faithful to each other wether there is a ring or not

Hmmm. The ring and placing blame on you is a cop out. Your girlfriend is a sl*t. I have been with my husband for 20+ years and stopped wear my ring last year. No it's not that I am cheating on him and a ring is a inconvience. I don't wear my wedding ring because my husband isn't man enough for me.

If I were you I would certainly buy a ring but give it to another girl that is decent and worthy of it and you.

and what will the next excuse be even after you giver her a ring ... take it from one who has been there ... run run run forest .......

3rd times for a man is a shame.. Leave her, find another girls. Why she ask you for commitment If she cheated on you! and it show me how shallow she was :)

don't be a fool - a ring don't plug the hole......

It depends: did both of you actually AGREE to be exclusive, or did you just assume it? If you both agreed- IN SO MANY WORDS- well, yeah, she's wrong. Many girls feel that if you haven't talked it over all's fair.

No. And the ring is no guarantee anyway!

the ring would have meant nothing to her

she is just using that as an excuse.

Yeah, it sounds like your g/f is non-monogamous by nature and she should be with someone who is comfortable being in an open relationship.

The really disturbing thing here is that she's blaming her non-monogamy on the lack of a ring on her finger. It sounds like she's in denial about who she is which is a scary proposition.

I think you should sit down and have a talk with her about this situation in as non-judgmental of a way as possible. Don't call her a ****, but do call her on the fact that she's not living like someone who wants to be in a monogamous relationship. People who want to be monogamous don't need the ring to do it, they just do it. Then explain to her that she might be much happier in a relationship that allows her to explore this side of herself without having to hide these other relationships from her primary partner... but that primary partner can't be you.

Really, I don't think she's going to change unless she's very young, in which case she shouldn't be making a commitment as serious as marriage anyway.

Not in my experiences. A ring doesn't mean what it used to, so I wouldn't count on that. I would say you need to seriously sit down with her and let her know that's NOT an excuse. If she keeps acting that way then I think you need to move on. Good luck.

Faithful is all or nothing. You either have it in a relationship or you don't.

It has nothing to do with a ring. That is a cop out.

A ring isn't going to do it. Tell her to stop blaming you for behavior. It's her choice to cheat. People cheat because there is something missing. A ring is not what she is missing.

Go buy her a $10.00 ring and see where that takes her.

No--people are faithful because they want to be--a ring is a symbol of a commitment--does it mean that--no it's what we hold in our heart for that meaning--

How shallow to blame it on the ring and you. She'll do it again. Far easier to start again from scratch.