Yes, it is easier for them to date someone who they know will treat them wrong, its kind of like a twisted and demented way of protecting themselves. When dating a good man who show us no signs of hurting us, it would hurt a lot more if he end up disappointing us, but if we date a guy who is no good from the beginning, it would be no surprise when he do hurt us. Its sad, most people who only deal with pain and hurt throughout their life are only familiar with it and dont know how to live anyway else
yes my theary is these types of woman were betrayed by there fathers they long for that relationship they once had .the jerk can make that woman feal like daddys little girl at times and that woman will go through hell for those moments when she can feal like daddys little girl
[I can't speak for anyone but myself.] It makes me feel awkward to think of dating a guy who treats me the way I deserve to be treated, or better. Specific "really nice" things a guy does, might make me wonder what the motive is or how he's trying to manipulate me for his own advantage in some small way. It makes me feel awkward, suspicious or withdrawn emotionally if a guy is too sweet or nice to me. <br />
Sometimes. Not all the time. The attitude has faded a little over time.<br />
Perhaps it's why I'm not enthusiastic about the idea of finding a partner as some other women my age are. It just isn't fathomable to me that I might be better off. Maybe in the short term though. <br />
I mean, theoretically I'm open to possibility I suppose.
I also believe that many men don't know they're mistreating a woman, or are willfully blind, and consider themselves gentlemen or a good man, when really they aren't as good as they think/say they are. This is my anecdotal experience: that a man believes he's better than other men, a better catch for a woman, and keeps believing this, when he's actually rather neglectful or self-centred and inconsiderate.
Sadly, yes. "Nice" may not be a relationship dynamic they recognise, if they're damaged by what they may've been raised with, as well as experienced themselves.
I think they get used to one personality of guy, but they don't realize that it isn't just that one guy who was bad, that they need to change who they pick by that person's overall attitude and outlook. They pick the tough guy over and over, and they get their heart broken. They choose the bad boy once and they think he has a heart only for them, and then wonder why this bad boy always breaks them.
Its all a matter of timing for a chick.
Would you be averse to avoiding using the terminology of "chick", and rather substituting "woman" or "lady" or "female"?
omg I said it one time and you gotta pull that card?
bcuz the disrespectful guy is good at what he does. he starts off as prince charming and makes you feel like you're in a dream. he puts on the best act of his life by making you think you are his world and that he loves you beyond words and then as soon as he catches you at your weakest moment, as soon as he knows he's got you....he reveals his true self and by that time you are left wondering what you did wrong, you find yourself fighting to save your relationship and he just takes and takes until you have nothing left....and by that time, a woman is so broken and damaged that the good guy doesn't even want her.
After my divorce becomes final, i plan on not dating for at least 10 years and see the Life i was supposed to have. <><
Yep. Some nice women are attracted to bad guys, unfortunately.