Forgiveness doesn't mean forgetting, otherwise you are setting yourself up for another dose of whatever you forgave. It means setting a boundary so that it doesn't hurt you any longer and not to plot revenge.
Remembering is not resentment if I've made peace
Forgiveness doesn't mean becoming brain-dead. It means that although you won't forget, you are willing to let it go. As CherokeePatti said, if you forget the harm done, you will let it happen again.
Okay. You have your mind made up.
Forgive but don't forget
Then you have not truly forgiven-you still harbor resentment- I haven't spoken to my mother in years b/c I can't let it go
If you've ever forgiven someone who repeatedly takes it as a green light to try more evil things then you will know the difference between forgive and forget
She views making peace as weakness- f her
wish i learned it sooner
I never claimed to have forgiven her
my mother is an endless well of resentable offenses
Resentment doesn't mean you haven't the ability to forgive. <br />
I resent not having a chance to have normal life style .....but still, I have forgiven.
Yeah. Remember forgiving it back nicely.