Submission like Domination is something we are born with it cannot be taught. Whether we choose to explore it or not will make us who we are today.
I like this a lot. I think we should leave it as one of those big life questions though.
nature or nutrure?
Being a sub was very situational for me. A lot of things were happening all at once in my life. He was my first real BF, he was big and just gorgeous, so I wanted to keep him and please him! I had just come out, and he was popular, and he showed me around "the scene", and yes, I liked the attention of being his "trophy wife." It was a very particular person at a very particular time; otherwise I could not have imaged doing it!
I think it happens both ways, kind of a nature vs nurture kind of thing?
I believe i was born submissive. It just seems natural to me.
perhaps we are all submissive? we have to submit, obey at home as children and at work for example. Maybe the difference is in discovering and enjoying and pursuing our submissive nature?
I was born submissive.
I am a natural (born) submissive but I do believe it can be learned. For me my emotional sub tendencies were present as a small child, I wanted to pleased dadore than anything. My sexual submissiveness presented at puberty with fantasies of being kidnapped and tied up. I would love to hear the experience of a learned submissive.
part of me thinks you have to be born that way, but I also think that you can be made submissive if guys teach you at a young age and it depends on how you are raised
I believe I was born submissive, I've never been dominate, I've always submitted to others
I was always submissive in all of my relationships. It always felt so natural to me.
Good question. I was " normal " until I met my wife. With her becoming and being submissive just happened and we are both happy
I'm only starting to understand that I really like submitting to women. I think I always was, but because I lived in a small town, I was never free to explore it. Now I've moved to a city and I am opening up. So, I would say, born.
In college I had a married girl friend who was so pent up frustrated with her namby pamby husband. I enjoyed her in every way. We experimented with positions, and mind games. Her hubby wanted to watch us ****. He was never submissive with her but he became totally submissive to me. He'd give me oral any way I wanted...as long as SHE was watching and smirking at him. And he WASN'T gay!