Resolved Question

In other words, do you allow your friends to be friends to you when you are hurting?

I have a friend, my old neighbour, and living so close for those years (we became friends after I moved in next door) we became very close - we would cook each other meals all the time, but especially when the other was ill, she is automatically invited to my family functions and vice versa.

Through her, I met another wonderful person, who spent an entire weekend helping me move out, which included scrubbing the last place down from top to bottom, all to make sure I would get my deposit back - i would do anything for her as well.

Strangely, the two friends I have known for years - one I even lived with for a year or two, only seem to be around when they need me, one didn't bother to contact me for two years until she found herself in a hostel - obviously my home was open to her, and the other i leant 40 quid to, and have only had 20 back - she should know by now that i am not bothered, but acknowledgement would be good.

And my oldest friend disappears for years on end, then we catch up briefly - that's the way it will always be between us, however he has given me the most personally wonderful gift ever - he introduced me to the loveliest man in the world!