I'm with God because He has saved my soul because of what He did on the Cross for Sinners thus I'm born again. John 3:16 says it plainly "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life."
I am with God because I really believe in Him; He is not a last resort. I love God with all my heart and soul. I believe if more people experienced Him as I do, it would literally change the world forever.
The fear of hell does not depend on God. I belive in Him. Nothing else.
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