Asking again for a wider range of responses - a question for older, married men:
Last night I met a former coworker for drinks. It was just the two of us - we don't have many mutual friends. Although I wanted to catch up, I was a bit worried that he might misinterpret it because of the age gap between us. He's 51 and I'm 24, but we're sort-of friends. The reason I say sort-of is because of the age gap. Yesterday was the second time in a year I've seen him socially outside of work.
When we worked together I felt like there was a slightly flirtatious vibe. No lines were ever crossed, and I intend for things to stay that way. However, I thought his behaviour last night was confusing. I feel like he was almost trying to 'overcompensate' by emphasising his unavailability.
- said it looked like he was at the bar with his daughter
- mentioned that he had to text his wife to tell her of his plans, and joked that she'd asked if he was meeting his girlfriend.
- asked if I had a bf
- asked about my 'type'
- said I was 'an attractive girl' and that I'd find a nice guy
- made a comment that highlighted our age-gap
- joked about spiking my drink
- said we should do it again