Baby 6mnths and I'm preg again, boyfriend depressed. How do I resolve?
I have a lovely son who is 7-years old this year. Last year, in August I was blessed with a beautiful daughter. She is six months now. Her father was very happy about her. He has been very suportive even though he is struggling financially. He is in a lot of debt. We were planning to raise the two kids and had no plans to have another one.
However, two days ago, I did a pregnancy test and it came out positive. I am a bit stressed about this but when I told my boyfriend, he got very angry. He said he is already struggling to support our daughter and cannot afford another child. He got very depressed and very aggrevated. He wants me to terminate pregnancy but I cannot bring myself to do it. It is against my religous beliefs. He got even more upset and told me he won't be part of it if I carry this to term. He is going through a lot right now, things are not okay at work, he feels he might lose his job, he is deep debt, his family are not very pleased with him with mistakes he has mad
4 Answers to "Baby 6mnths and I'm preg again, boyfriend depressed. How do I resolve?"
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v.a.s.e.c.t.o.m.y.
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Birth control of some sort. And it doesn't necessarily have to be a snip job, as for the rest you're just going to have to let things unfold as they should and focus on you and your baby.
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Taking the life of an innocent unborn baby is no way to deal with adult problems. I agree with FridayonElmStreet666 - you should be seeking work if you need more income. Babies are always a blessing if you look at it the right way. I know debts are worrying. I can't speak for where you are, but where I am there are non profit organisations that help people to manage debts. Ask around friends and family and see what they can help you with. Good luck!
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Posted by MysticEyes Feb 29th, 2012 at 2:29AM
I'm not going to sit here and scold you for what you SHOULD have done, hinesight is a wonderful thing. But here you are, two children and one on the way. Hubby is stressed because he's the main bread winner and you're copping the brunt of it. Firstly, give him time. He'll calm down and come to his senses eventually and when he does, you need to put your finances in order. Are there any 'luxury' items you can get rid of in your home? I.e. cable TV, Internet, cell phones, buying cheaper brand clothes/food? Next, is your husband able to look for a better paying job while he still works his current one? Then, once the new baby is around 6 months, can you leave the middle and youngest child in someone elses care while you yourself go out and work part time? I'm sure once the dust settles, there will be some light at the end of the tunnel. Oh and once the new baby is born, get hubby to have the snip! (vasectomy). All the best.
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