Pardon me, I do not mean to offend you or your culture. Here is the US, and of a different religion, this is the ideal I grew to cherish-<br />
Every human being is deserving of dignity and respect. Nothing in a romantic relationship should take that away from you, nor has the right to take that away from you. You are a beautiful human being and soul, and you are to be treated as such. <br />
No one can be "in charge" if a relationship is to work. Both people need to put in an equal amount of work and love. If disagreements are to arise, compromise is your best friend, but also letting either the man or woman have their way (as long as it doesn't hurt the other person) every so often isn't bad either. As long as there is an even give and take between both people. <br />
If any man ever thinks that he is "above" a woman- any better, any stronger, any wiser- he should remember that a Woman gave him life, and it was the most painful experience any human being can go through physically. He should remember that he is who he is because both woman and man shaped him and this world he lives in.
FALSE! Islam doesn't ask to "always" obey you r husband, give me sources that say a woman must always obey her husband.
First of all, "source" means Quran or "Hadith" not a story on a behaviour of a woman!! I know that is supposed to be a Hadith but it is a Haditht hat is telling a story, it is not an order by the prophet. Secondly, even if you look in the story, the prophet did not say a woman must always obey her husband, of course it is encouraged in Islam for a woman to respect and listen to her husband (and VICE VERSA) so that's why the prophet praised her, but where did he say that a woman must always obey a husband? You are quoting me a story, if that woman chose to react this way, that doesn't mean that Islam says so, does it? Actually the exact opposite is said, have you ever heard about this Hadith (No obedience to a creature in disobedience to the Creator)? So how are you saying that Islam says a woman must always obeys her husband, it contradicts the mentioned Hadith, please get your information right before spreading things about our belief, you always have to have a clear verse of the Quran or Hadith to support your claims and note that I said "clear" not a story that can be interpreted in different ways and does not have a clear statement of what you are claiming!
I hope you will find him and I am sure you will if you choose wisely and leave it to God and ask him to choose for you.
I am sorry if you have to go through a divorce, it could be the right thing to do, good luck.
i'd check out the potential husbands parents........see how the dad treats the mom.......this will give you a good indication of whether he can combine common sense & religion
I'm sorry. It's the religion you chose. I think the word "obey" should be replaced in the marriage vows, perhaps, "respect" would be a better word for both the man and wife.
From what I've read and heard about Islam, it doesn't seem to offer women any respect or rights as a human being. I can't believe that - in the 21st century - women would still allow themselves to be treated like their husband's property. <br />
It's just wrong. You deserve better.
I also read your question (like lostinchicago) thinking that you were already in a marriage that you weren't happy with. It's a bit confusing.
Well I can understand the respect part, it should be given, as he should show you respect as well, but the disobey I don't get, you're his wife, not his child.
Rule over you??!! Master??!! That's just ridiculous! To each their own but how about ruling over yourself and become the master of your own world, muslim or not because you're a woman!!
That's all bullshit. Islam does NOT say that at all! As a muslim, i know what it says in islam. There are actually many hadiths that say that men should respect and care for their wives. I hate people like you. NONE of that **** americans think is true! NONE! We are ordinary people.
It's called respect NOT obedience. Thank you for making muslims look like ****. Please look at the definition of "obedience" and the word "ignorant" while you're at it.
I live in the most liberal values country in whole America and we do not bend like this to men. Actually it is women who seem to make rules and more men loves to be dominated....girl u brainwashed and dont know about it
see...I rest my case: u deeply brainwash
You dont need to 'obey' anyone. You should be equal, you respect him, he respects you.<br />
Im not Muslim btw.
The same falacy exists in traditional Christian doctrine about marriage. I may be Christian, but I think those old ideas like "must obey the man" need to go out the window. <br />
Find yourself a man who will respect you and consider you a partner, not a servant. I'm sure I must be breaking some Sharia law by suggesting this, but you are better off alone than being in a lopsided marriage.
I feel more empowered as a Christian when I read the New Testament, particularly when Jesus is speaking to women. A priest took the time to make one of my classes blatantly aware of how differently Jesus treated women, as compared to how they were "supposed" to be treated back then. It's very interesting actually, if you go back to the many Jewish traditions he was defying through his teachings!
When he said he came to overturn, he was not joking.
Be careful, whatever you choose.
What a beautiful insight. You're a smart woman.. I love your thinking
It was nothing less. You've certainly got yer head screwed on the right way- maybe you don't know it. I dunno.
So, what does a husband do for you?
Marriage is a partnership, among other things. There should be mutual respect. And as much unconditional love as possible on both sides.
But by the same token he wouldn't be with another girl because he loves you. If you're not willing to share he should respect that. He should honor you above all others.