I have learned from dealing with my ex-girlfriend that the safest thing to do is keep quiet. Your personal feelings don't matter. All that matters is the other person's feelings, and their agenda.
It's my experience that they aren't interested in our feelings. All that matters is that we respect theirs. We don't count; we are simply servants. That's why Wall-e is my avatar.
Remember Wall-e? His only task was to clean up other people's messes, and take out their garbage. He fell in love with EVE and went through hell for her, and she had no idea - she was only bent on her own thing. And all Wall-e wanted out of his whole existence was to hold her hand. I know how that feels.
My dear, you are truly above me. I just ended a relationship with a woman who seemed to think that it was her duty to point out every character flaw that she saw in me, real or imagined. She would do it at the most inappropriate times. Every time I asked her why she felt it necessary to do it, she would reply, "I'm just stating what I think. That's how I am." After three years of it, it destroyed my love for her, but I still enjoyed her companionship. Now, I don't even want that. I just want to be left alone if that's how people are.
You just spoke very wise words when you said, "There is this very common misunderstanding of honesty and integrity, falling it with rudeness!" That is the very way I have been seeking to explain the situation to her. Thank you.
If its the beginning, go take a risk, and tell it.....cross the bridge.....else u might just be alone....
change the way...its your life, its your way...
This is what one should have as attitude
It depends, but saying it is better than keeping it.
Hmmm I don't want to ask, cuz I don't think you would want to say it here in public:)
Usually I'd go with the first, but not if it would harm another person.
Some times telling exact feelings depends on the importance of the issue and the relationship.
Losers can't tell
They probably know anyway , best not to compromise yourself any more than you need to.
telling doesn't necessarily prevent them digging at you heart.
every body else does I may as well join the crowd.
Tell your exact feelings up front.
I do the latter.