Bottom line, are you owed anything? *please see details*
A friend asked me this today so I'll put it out there for you folks' opinions: Her in-laws had a Shop-Vac that she borrowed on occasion. The last time she borrowed it, they said for her to just keep it as her own because they "never need it". So she did. About six months later they asked to borrow it, and somehow managed to break it. My friend was annoyed because she considered it to be hers and felt they owed her another one, or at least that they should pay to have it fixed, if possible. They said it was theirs to begin with so they didn't owe her anything.
I tend to think that if they gave it to her and it was actually her property, they should at least offer to try to repair it (again, if possible, I don't know what's wrong with it). What's your opinion? If you give something to someone, borrow it back and then break it do you owe anything?
I am going to let the votes decide this one-I don't want to choose the best answer ba
13 Answers to "Bottom line, are you owed anything? *please see details*"
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I dont know if anyone else has mentioned this before but i will regardless. I would argue that they split the cost to either by a new one or repair it either way, for the vac may have been the in laws vaccum in the first place but they did give it to her so it became her property there by. so if one examines the situation it only seems fair that both parties at least pay half seeing as it was in a way a sense of dual ownership
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This is an interesting idea. Maybe instead of asking them to replace it she can approach them and offer to go halves and then they can both continue to use it? Hmmm...more possibilities!
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exactly because i mean before technically they did both have ownership in the past and they were both using the vaccum in the past any ways so it seems a good idea to me at least
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Wow... that's truly a large set your friend has there!
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LOL! I think she would thank you for that. I tend to agree. She's kind of a pip.
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Heck no. I'd have been damm grateful to have it even if just for a while. Well, I wouldn't have had it at all if it weren't for them, would I? So how can I get ticked if it breaks down when they're borrowing their own vacuum from me?
Best to find out young: The world OWES you nothing.Like (3)
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This is pretty much the in-laws' argument.
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If I gave someone a used blender as a gift, borrowed it and burnt out the motor, I would feel responsible and pay for some of it. It's only right.
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This was my first response to her question, but if they don't offer, I don't know how she can ask without it being awkward.
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I would be so embarrased to actually even suggest to my in-laws the idea of replacing it omg. They basically gave it to me and I would refuse for them to attempt to replace it. I would just smile and tell them it's okay. Then break down and buy one with my own money if I really need it that bad.
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I myself would probably not bring it up either if they didn't offer-I have nice in-laws and I kind of would like it to stay that way!
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So not worth it. She should have bought her own in the first place. They aren't that expensive.
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Certainly would have cut all of this trouble off at the head if she's have just sprung for her own, for sure. She needs to institute a no borrowing/lending policy with her in-laws, I think.
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I think I'd kind of be a jerk to complain about it...and I would not want to tick off the nice inlaws who might give me free stuff in the future.
I have such an inlaw who gives me and the wife free stuff, and I ain't ticking her off nohow!
Shop-vacs are like, 50$ brand new.
Is having a falling -out worth 50$?
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I don't think she is on as good of terms with her in-laws as you seem to be with yours, but it's a good point. It's not a lot of money and they are going to be in-laws for a looong time.
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lol.... if someone gives something to you, yes. it is yours. and technically, if you loan it back and they (intentionally) break it.. they should replace it.
but if you want to be a human, and live your life with less stress.... you say sh!t happens. they gave it to me... it's gone now.. i'm going to be a gratefull adult, and be thankfull for the time i had it. ;)Like (2)
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I could agree with that, too. She could just be glad she had one to use..good while it lasted and move on.
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I find all that petty.... She got something for nothing.....enjoyed using it......
who care who broke what?¿
If she had broken it before they gave it to her would she have replaced it?
If you lend or borrow anything, there is always a possibility something will break or get lost or damaged. If youre not willing to run that chance......Dont lend. :-)Like (2)
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Agreed, but the trouble is that neither party can agree on exactly who the lender was.
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It just seems very trivial considering the "real" problems a family can go through
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Drop it and move on. Plus, I kinda agree with the in-laws, a little.
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The longer I think about it I'm thinking she should just let it go, too, even if I don't think the in-laws should let it go.
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On Balance I would say No. The item was a gift from them in the first place. Only if your paid for it are you owed a new one. And its certainly not worth screwing up a friendship over.
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It's a bit sticky because it's the in-laws. She might do better to just drop it!
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they gave to her so yes was hers but since she didn t pay for it if she decent person she will forget about it
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If she is the bigger person she will; that remains to be seen.
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Best Answer (Chosen by Voting):
Posted by KayKai Jul 29th, 2012 at 8:15PM
So she's trying to weasel another freebie huh?
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Reply by FourCatsTooMany Jul 29th, 2012 at 8:21PM
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