Well I guess loving a person has nothing to do with self esteem... its about preserving your love for long time... and that's where it becomes an obstacle!
He can, but it's tiresome. I think people with low self-esteem need to get it high before they date anyone. It's a burden having to deal with someone that has Woe-Me syndrome.
Untethered: No one said that. I just don't think some of you guys realize that you're a burden on the other person...and a relationship is a two-way street.
The guy can't keep you feeling good when you're down (more than the average person)....and if you can't reciprocate when he's down because you're usually a downer, it doesn't make for a successful relationship.
I just think you have to mature to the point where the guy doesn't have to be your rock and you can stand on your two feet without him having to be there. Otherwise, no one who can do this should be dating (imo).
Your worthy of love, but you might lose it if you're not ready and/or are a burden.
I replied to this...why didn't it show up?
Okay. 1) Are you from America? Because if you're not, I'll educate about the English usage of "You" here. "You" can mean a specific person or just the general populace. I don't know you, so it would stand to reason that I wasn't talk about you specifically. 2) People with low self-esteem might not see themselves as demanding or cumbersome, but their SOs have to put A LOT more energy into them and their relationship to make it work rather than someone who is confident in themselves. It gets tiring to have to constantly make sure that the person is fine and isn't getting depressed over something minor. What I meant by "rock" is someone who will help you when you fall into states that low self-esteem puts you in. A lot of people use their SOs to bring them back to their original level, but they don't understand the toll it exacts on their loved ones.
No. I don't know all of you nor did I ever say I did. I didn't assume that most of you were that way either. I was speaking from experience that I've seen from others. ....Lol. And if you're afraid to admit that you have low-self esteem because of what other people think, then THAT'S a problem that needs to be remedied. Who cares what other people think? You don't know them, so why do you care that they make assumptions about things? Correct them and move on with your life and don't let them burden you. That's what I do.
It seems that you've forgotten the English lesson already. If people are afraid to admit that they have low self-esteem due to misperceptions, then they need to emotionally mature.
Such a good point, I guess the other thing is that everyone is insure to some degree, but they don't exactly give you a number to aim for, of the amount of "not" insecurity that you need before you should start dating.
People could spend a lifetime "getting ready"
it's up to the man to pick you up, and make you happy.
ok. you're entitled to your point of view. :)
He will use you once he sees that you have low self Esteem
Yeah... The one that ain't. Are pretending to get *****
I think that's your low self esteem talking. Although a lot of people with low self esteem/general neuroses tend to put themselves into self-perpetuating cycles e.g. stressing about how someone might not like you to the point that it makes people not like you.
Because it's not nice dealing with a person who is always low or feels depressed and sad... Life is too short to deal with other people's crap
Yes of course.
It's not true in absolute. It can be a scientific theory, but love just regards spirituality, and this is not scientifically mesurable. On the other hand.....love is much much much more than appreciation. Who really loves just loves to share the pain of the partner.