Resolved Question

I recently(9 months ago) married a wonderful man whom i've been with romantically for the past 8 years. He is the sweetest most wonderful man. My BEST FRIEND. I joined the army about 3 1/2 years into our relationship. Before I left for training I didn't want anything else except to get married to him. While I was gone to training for about 7 months I hardly heard from him( Maybe 5 letters and a few phone calls). I was ready to end it. Then, he apologized we got engaged and 2 1/2 years later we got married. Now, I find myself questioning everything. There is no spark, no romance, and we rarely see each other. He works 2nd shift and I work days. I recently went to a school for my job. While I was there I met the most amazing person who is also married. We could sit and talk for hours and had so much fun together. It made me realize how unhappy I really am at home. I love my husband very much but I don't feel connected to him at all. I want to make it work. Can I save my marriage?

You can save your marriage. I think what you need to know is that it is never going to be like it was in the beginning, over time, love matures into something deeper, more comfortable.

You're never going to get back to having butterflies when you see him walk through the door, or spending hours doing your makeup before he gets home. But, with your new crush, you probably have that giddy, excited feeling when you're around him.

Don't give in to it though, because even if you did leave your husband for him, that relationship would turn out the same way. The grass is never greener on the other side.