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freeangel freeangel 31-35, F 29 Answers Apr 11, 2010

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Yes. Especially if she is a lesbian, and he is gay.

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Yes and no. A heterosexual male cannot be 'just friends' in the sense he has no sexual thoughts about a woman he is 'friends' with. After all except for the extremes of age and/or physical beauty a heterosexual male ALWAYS 'measures' whether a female would be sexually satisfying... always. Any man telling you differently is lying to you. Our senses are directly wired to our sex drives.<br />
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He can, however, have a platonic relationship with a woman in the sense that while he would like to have sex with her he understands it's just not in the cards and since the female is 'fun to be around' it's worth the minor frustration. If this is your definition of 'just be friends' then the answer is yes.

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Well, speaking from personal experience, if both of them are attractive and single, then it's a no. <br />
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Even then, if they're good friends, at one point or the other, one of them WILL start thinking about the other in a non-platonic way. It just can't be helped. <br />
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But some don't do anything about it cuz they don't want to ruin their friendship, while some tell each other their feelings. <br />
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And I've seen that when the latter happens, the relationship is almost always great because you were friends before you were lovers and you've already connected with each other.

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Only if there is absolutely no chemistry, but then still watch out, cos they can grow on you & start to look attractive, hmmm very fine line I thinks :)

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At this time, I have no female friends, only a couple of close co-worker acquaintances. I don't relate to most women very well and I don't entirely understand this. I consider both of my ex-husbands to be very good friends and have one other male friend who has remained as only a phone contact for the past six or seven years. <br />
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So I have no problem with male friendships and I see many other people who manage fine with this as well. Only once have a had a problem with a male friend who "wanted more" and that was in the last few months. Out of misplaced sympathy, I gave in to his wishes to start an intimate relationship and I have regretted it ever since. As long as both parties understand the boundaries and obey them, all is well. When the line is crossed, the results can be mixed. For my "friend", the end is near and I will not maintain a friendship with him. That would be difficult to do considering that I feel like a complete idiot for going to the next level with him and I would just as soon forget it ever happened...

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Most of my friends are guys.

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I believe in a man and a female friendship UNFORTUNATELY men don't so that makes things DIFFICULT

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hai friends every one some feelings but no boddy can feel it or thinks any shemale **** her *** they can send mail

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Yes, though you really have to define your boundaries. It can be easy for it to turn into something more.

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Who says you can't have sex with your friends?<br />
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It only gets "weird" when someone makes it weird.<br />
I would much rather have sex with a woman I was friends with rather than a stranger I met at a bar or online. Problems arise only when one party expects something more. You should always lay out the rules before you have sex with somebody, so they know what they're getting into.<br />
Ladies, if you want a relationship with a guy you better say something before you become sexually involved. If you don't, the guy has no idea what you expect afterwards and if he doesn't meet some unspoken condition you've got in your head then you wonder why he's a "jerk" when he doesn't become what you never told him you expected. This is how many women get the reputation of being crazy.<br />
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I was talking to a female friend of mine who asked me why guys "dump on" her. When I asked what she meant, she said that she met some guy and had sex with him and he didn't call her. I asked her if she told him that she expected a call, she said no. I asked her what gave her the right to be angry with a man who she consented to have sex with for not doing something she didn't ask him to do. She couldn't answer me.<br />
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You guys should go to http://www.laddertheory.com ...<br />
It's a satire, but it reveals truths about both sexes that we don't so easily admit, like this:<br />
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IF A MAN FINDS YOU ATTRACTIVE YOU CANNOT BE FRIENDS<br />
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Many women want to argue this point and say things like " I have lots of guy friends." Maybe. There are exactly 3 cases we have identified whereby a guy and a girl can be friends:<br />
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1. The guy is gay<br />
2. The guy does not find you attractive<br />
3. The guy already has a woman much higher than you on the ladder<br />
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Even Nietzsche knew this. Most guys know this intuitively. Most girls doubt. I have a challenge for all of you girls who still doubt. Pick a guy who does not meet any of the criterion on the above list that you think is your friend. Then ask yourself this question: If you were both alone at his place one night, and you excused yourself to the bathroom and came out naked and asked him to have sex with you would he:<br />
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1. Tell you he doesn't want to risk the beautiful friendship you have created with messy physical entanglements.<br />
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2. Comply.<br />
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...this only works if you are honest with yourself. Number one is of course something that guys hear all the time. We refer to it as the Kiss of Death. It is more likely that he will jump you eagerly.

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No...they HAVE to have sex!! (kidding) Anyone can friends. It's not gender bias unless you make it that way.

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Absolutely, I have many lifelong friends who are male. I suppose it depends on how mature you are. I have seen too many who can't "just be friends" and it ruins their relationships. That's sad.

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i have more male friends than female...strictly platonic, though.

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all i can say is its rare

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YES>AS LONG AS THERE'S NO ATTRACTION INFVOLVED

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That's a tough one. But I would have to say yes, and only if there was no sex involved.

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Yes, if they decide to. Don't you think?

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Sure they can! I've had a male friend I adopted as my "big brother" years ago. He remains one of my truest friends today.

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not unless one of them is gay. Sorry, it's personal experience. I used to think you could until I learned otherwise. On more than one occasion. It wasn't me, it was the guy being into me for 2 times and then the other time because people gossiped and harrassed us.

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all the male friends i had wanted to sleep with me but i wasn't attracted to them.<br />
i still believe you can be only friends.

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