Can physical attraction develop?
I've been seeing this girl for a week - yes, a short amount of time to decide anything. But, I don't feel a real spark in physical attraction like I'd hoped. Her personality is spot on and for me, that's insane to think about.
So now I'm stressed over the fact that I will probably not find anyone better in the personality department, but I'm not sure I'm drawn to her. She's cute - I guess I'm just not lustful and that has me really concerned.
Has anyone experienced this?
16 Answers to "Can physical attraction develop?"
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Sounds like there is no chemistry between you 2. She is a friend more than anything. I've dated someone who was perfect for me in every way except in bed lol. He would not turn me on for some strange reason and he never did.
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Yes, there was this guy that I was friendly with, didn't even think anything physical about him, but the more I started to get to know him, see how he treated me and others, I began to think of him in a different way and I became attracted to him both physically and on an emotional level. It was more satisfying than just having lustful feelings. Maybe you can get to know this girl better, take her out, spend some time together. If you don't become more attracted to her, maybe you'll have met a good friend.
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yes ... once you start to really look at her...
the way her eyes react to light...
the way her lips form her words...
her body language...
the brain seems to snap a picture of someone
and only uses that picture to reference who they are,
never really allowing us to see all the nuances that
the person possesses.
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i dated my ex for a year and half not being physically attracted to him. I mean he was cute that why i was sating him but i never tear his clothes off and just jump him. I've wanted to do that to strangers but not him. The physical part was ok ok with us. I liked kissing him because he had really nice lips. But thats about it. I never wanted to do anything more to him from my side, so i just did what he wanted. I think he knew i wasnt physically attracted to him. I loved him but i just never had the raw feeling. In the long run that messed with his head. He'd really feel very down if i dint come and then he'd start asking me why i ditn find him attractive, he had put on a few kilos and he thought that was the reason. big mess.
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Of course. I like intelligent women and when I met my spouse driving down to a trail maintenance project we had three days to talk and get to know each other. I was turned on by her conversation and interests and the physical attraction just grew.
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yes it can develop
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no if it isnt there in the begining i dont see how it will, though i tend to go for mental attractiveness. I might find someone sexy as hell but not be able to stand to be around them
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I think it can, I didn't find my ex too attractive, but our personalities meshed fairly well he was smart and I liked having conversations with him. After a little while I noticed how pretty his eyes were and how when the sunlight hit his hair just right you could see the different colors that were naturally in it etc.
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Definitely...I can recall on more than a occasions that I didn't feel physically attracted to but we were good friends. The more I go to know him and his personality was awesome and we were so alike I started to get physically attracted. But we were friends and not already dating so it happened naturally.
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You may wake up one day in the future and say, boy I let her go, I really f**ked up. Give yourself and her some time, ya just never know. Better to try and know than not try and always wonder.
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Absolutely....Every one has preferences as to what we specifically find appealing. for instance have you every met someone you thought was gorgeous to find out later what a jerk they were? We all have that occasional butterfly when something turns us on...dimples that were so darned cute when that guy smiled at you. Or someone you thought filled out there jeans very nicely...etc.
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I have, and it seemed like a lost cause, however after a few years I realized that the timing was just not right. Anything can trigger the change like a new hair style or hair color or change in clothing style or body shape. It can be very subtile.
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That's pretty sad. But you can't help how you feel I guess, or maybe you can. What's not attractive about her? Her face? Her hair? Her eyes? You need to let her go then so she can find someone who deserves her & thinks she's beautiful both inside & out.
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well I guess thats up to you to decide, you cant usually have both.
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Nope
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Best Answer (Chosen By Asker):
Posted by Slashismygod Jul 6th, 2012 at 9:42AM
If you really care for someone, the more you know them the better they look but if you start off thinking it's never going to happen then it probably won't.
It can also go the other way. I've seen men who I thought were absolutely gorgeous but after getting to know them, they lost that appeal.
I've also been friends with a lot of very good looking men and never thought twice about them in any way other than being my friend.
I guess it all depends on whether you think looks are more important than personality but I'd rather be with a guy who is average looking with an awesome personality, then a drop dead gorgeous guy who has a $hitty personality .
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