Can we ask our partners what we want? or we just wait for them to do it willingly?

e.g. that we love to receive flowers or small gifts or to help in the house works or anything...

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I heard a wise person one time say this:

If you don't know what you want, you can't ask for it.
If you know what you want, but don't ask, you won't get it.
If you know what you want, and ask for it, you might get it.
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Yes, ask. Just don't whine.

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Other 15 Answers to Can we ask our partners what we want? or we just wait for them to do it willingly?

chance1	Posted Mar 17th, 2009 at 10:23AM They may not know if you do not tell them. Please communicate and ask nicely. You might be suprised what may happen. Rated: +2Vote for this!
salescoach	Posted Mar 17th, 2009 at 10:32PM Yes, Speak Up! Satisfaction (in all forms) comes from 1) Knowing what you want or like. 2) Telling and /or training our partners. Don't let both of you suffer in silence due to unmet expectations on either side. You'll both be happier and at peace. Rated: +2Vote for this!
Outlawbiker	Posted Mar 16th, 2009 at 9:42AM speak up, or u'll end up miserable. Rated: +1Vote for this!
TheRealWoman	Posted Mar 16th, 2009 at 9:43AM Oh my Gosh, of course we can ask. It's nice if they do it on their own will, but yes ask! Rated: +1Vote for this!
unicorn59	Posted Mar 16th, 2009 at 10:05AM Share what you like/dislike with your partner....They can't read our minds....(and I know I wouldn't want them to)....so, being open with them, helps them understand us more. Rated: +1Vote for this!
NancyDrew	Posted Mar 16th, 2009 at 10:09AM Asking is a far cry from receiving. To put your needs out on the table for someone else to decipher is often asking for disappointment. We should strive to meet our own needs and not depend on others to meet our needs. In any partnership dialog is extremely important. Open communication is vital to success. Ask-a-way but remember reliance on others for your own needs may result in frustration. Rated: +1Vote for this!
JojoWazoo	Posted Mar 16th, 2009 at 11:14AM If you don't ask, they'll never know! Rated: +1Vote for this!
SaratogaGirl	Posted Mar 16th, 2009 at 11:16AM Why should you not ask? How will they know you want it if you don't let them know? Rated: +1Vote for this!
nuevo	Posted Mar 16th, 2009 at 11:19AM You'll be waiting a long time if you do not ask for what you need! Just because our partners love us does not mean everyone can anticipate or know the needs of the other without some guidance! If you want your needs to be met consistently, be consistent in asking and giving thanks and appreciation when they are. If your partner does something you love willingly, without being asked, don't forget to let them know how much you loved the surprise! Rated: +1Vote for this!
LawRaJayne	Posted Mar 16th, 2009 at 12:27PM most guys are totally dumb when it comes to taking hints [no offense]. they mean well, but their way of showing they love you etc. is different to perhaps what you are looking for. the best thing you can do is tell him what makes you feel special. and say "i wish you'd do things like that for me". that way.. it's a very suttle and upfront hint. Rated: +1Vote for this!
Smokeseek	Posted Mar 16th, 2009 at 1:11PM LOL asking my wife for what I want is akin to asking my dog the same question. She think she "knows" what I need, and is wrong more often than not. Rated: +1Vote for this!
SecretKinkster	Posted Mar 16th, 2009 at 1:23PM My favorite book of cliches tells me that it's the "squeaky wheel that gets the grease." So, I say, tell him your needs -and let him share his. Just make sure you do it at the right time/place (e.g., asking for a new tennis bracelet right after a job loss is .... not so good.). Rated: +1Vote for this!
nrcsguy	Posted Mar 16th, 2009 at 1:52PM its better to ask for forgiveness rather than asking for permission. Rated: +1Vote for this!
GDGGirl	Posted Mar 16th, 2009 at 3:29PM drop the hints or just say it.....men give up trying to read between the lines they woud prefer you just come out and say it. Plus, that is something you would want your partner to know. Communication is the key to a great relationship. Rated: +1Vote for this!
CallmeNUTZ	Posted Mar 16th, 2009 at 9:09PM I beg of you to ask!! And if a year later it seems I've forgotten, ask again!! I'm pretty thick headed but I love nothing more than pleasing someone in any way. To know there's something you secretly want to ask for but don't feel you can breaks my heart, makes me feel as though you don't trust me or my reaction to you. Rated: +1Vote for this!

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