Can you ever move passed a relationship without closure?

Honestly, going through a breakup right now, I would like some kind of closure. Mainly being, why he's decided to leave me in this really hurtful way. Of course I'll get over it in time, but right now, time seems like this endless sadness...

Short answer: Absolutely.

Long answer: You'll move on to bigger and better things in spite of yourself. The difference is that, without closure, every now and then you'll wonder, "what if? What if it had been different, somehow?" There's nothing wrong with this wondering, and it too will eventually pass as well.

As the cliche goes, time heals all wounds--even the ones that haven't closed.

I did.....My first wife did all she could to hurt me and then to destroy my reputation afterwards. I learned that she had lured me into the relationship and even made believe she was the one for me just for her own personal agenda. "Why me?" was all I wanted to know....I loved her and treated her with nothing but respect. I never got that answer. I learned to move on and let it go in time.

Yes. And as trite as it sounds time really does heal all wounds. It just takes time, closure or not.

i think so with time, but it does seem to make it that much more difficult when you don't have that closure. this happened with the last guy i used to see. i never got a clear explaination of why he bailed out on me and i think it would have helped if he had told me something, anything.

Only with the passage of time, and many uncomfortable realizations about the character of the other person.

most definitely!! If you no longer intentionally think of them and prioritise yourself in your life...!

Its difficult to say. It may be that when you detached yourself from the relationship, all that you needed to do was done; then that would in fact be closure. However, if there is "unfinished business", that will remain, and must be revisited and dealt with in order to have the closure you want.

So the answer, I believe is "No - you HAVE to have closure to be free".

Ever watch the Jerry Springer show? Closure should be addressed when both parties have resolved the difference. This may take a matter of time. But when one door is closed, another is opened.

relationships are hard on the heart . The sweetness of no closure is that theres alot of mystery to entertain your head when you hear a song and youre drunk at a bar. Its kinda fun sometimes.
Was the end bitter? even so, it is great if the person was a jerk, because theres more reason for you to be happy after you see straight again.

Time is a healer and each person takes a different time frame to heal or find closure. Some times it is easier to take the good memories and concentrate on those and healing time may be shorter. After losing my wife I was given a saying called "Forever Changed". I learned that we must go on with our lives regardless of circumstances, but we will never be the same regardless of circumstances. Everything and every body leaves an impression in our life.

I don't think so. At the same time, you have no other choice but to. You cannot force anyone to finalize what is already considered done.

I had a girlfriend back in high school that completely dropped communication with me. I thought something bad happened like in the hospital, so when I called her from a home phone phone about a week later, SHE picked up (after not picking up calls from my phone), and I asked to speak to her, and she said that "so and so" wasn't here right now. I said "if that's the way you want it to be and end, then ok" and just hung up.

Didn't really get over that one for about a year, but with time and the realization that some people are just a POS no matter what, I learned to get over it.

i wouldn't want to do that.

Yes... You pick up your life and keep moving on, thats all anyone can do.

Of course you can, but it would be so much better if you do.

The answer is YES, You can move passed someone that you didn't have closure, I know because i have done it. I was once dumped over the phone on a trip to see my Mom who was ill, She told me that I should just stay with my Mom, then she said those unforgettable words, I love you but im not IN love with you, that was over 6 years ago, It has been really hard but i did it. over time you will get past this, you just have to force yourself to move on with your life and stop letting that person ruin any future or happiness you could have with someone else, Do you think that they are sitting home upset and hurting all the time becasue they dumped you, NO, they have moved on and you need to try and put the past behind you and move on as well, I know how hard it is to do this but you have to try. hugs, Rhonda