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Can young love survive?

I'm engaged to my first love, a soldier whom I have dated for 2 years. He was my first and I have lived a very sheltered life and I admit I have some curiousity however I love him and I want to marry him. Sometimes I wonder if we are incompatable though. I like to talk and he doesn't which is the main problem. Small things like our taste in music are there too but for the most part he is what I want he is sweet loyal and protective and he gets jealous which shows that he cares. I love him so much and I want us to work out. Please let me know if there is a way to get him to open up more and for my curiousity to dim, I'm not even necessarily curious in dating others I just feel like I need to experience more of the world before I get married, there is alot I want to accomplish that I'm scared I won't do after I'm married because that happened to my mom. I want to marry him so I want to do whatever it takes to make sure we are both happy and that we will never end our relationship. Any advice?
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I remember my first boyfriend, we were together until I was about 20, we met when I was 16. Ah, I loved him so much! In the end, it did not work, but what wonderful memories I have!

I think if I compare my first boyfriend to the man I am with now, I prefer the relationship I am in now, for instance, at the grand old age of 34 I don't expect us to do everything together, whereas I did with first one, I have experienced a lot more of life now, and found my own interests, which as they are different to this one's gives us both things to discuss (though I have to say his music tastes are dubious!) And because I have gone out and find life, though not necessarily the things I once planned, I feel confident to be me with this one, where as I wanted to please the first one.

I think you are wrong insofar as his jealousy proves he loves you. I don't doubt your boyfriend loves you, but jealousy is not a way to show it, that shows a lack of confidence in you, a lack of trust almost.

Why don't you make a list of things you wish to do with your life, and then speak to your boyfriend, (he may be more receptive to you if he feels you are serious) let him know what you want to do. With luck, he will understand your need to experience life and will support you, as any good boyfriend should.

Good luck, I think you are right to want to create your own life experiences.
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Posted May 18th, 2009 at 12:22AM
Have you spoken to him about this? I understand he doesn't like to talk but in any relationship communication is key. Try talking to him about your concerns but do not force anything upon him. Wait for him to tell you or he will take even longer to tell you-- if you try to force it upon him.
I wish you all the luck and just remember the hard things in life are always worth it. :D
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Posted May 18th, 2009 at 1:32AM
Just be honest and give trust_it will all be worthy.

U can still do things even if married. N0wadays in marriage both c0uple support each other, thats why they still attain their goals even married.Its a plus to them because they had a c0operating partner that whether they suceed or n0t still there at their side

d0nt dare to had date with other man,because it might affect your relati0nship with your fiancee_or even lose him

but if u feel you're really n0t ready for it, then ask him if he can give u en0ugh time before underg0ing marriage. If he really loves u,he will wait for you!

G0odluck_EemCee
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Posted May 18th, 2009 at 5:23AM
I think that it depends on the people. My first marriage was a disaster because we had very little in common, he was jealous, possesive, mean, and not my best friend. It took me 20 years to get over the abuse in the first marriage and it scarred my daughter for life. I met my current husband when I was 42 and we have been together for 8 happy years. He is my best friend. I can tell him anything. We trust each other totally. We are there for each other but we also give each other space. We have the same spiritual beliefs and types of boundries. We both enjoy spending time out with our friends, whether together or on our own. We have a lot in common but also hobbies that keep our interest and that we can share with each other.
True love never dies but that doesn't always mean it will make a good marriage. I was too young to be married the first time. I wish that I had gotten a job and an apartment on my own and learned how to be my own person before I got married. I had to learn that while raising a child by myself and then being in my 40's before I found a good mate.
I always think that people should have their own life before they become someones spouse. I also wish I had gone to college and had that experience. You can't get your youth back. If nothing else, I would go to a marriage counsiller before getting married. They can sometimes point out things that need to be worked on before you get married or things that may ruin the relationship that you can't see because you are in love.
It is so hard to use your head when you feel passion for someone. Just remember that passion isn't always love and even when it is, it doesn't always mean that you can be happily married to that person.
I don't mean to be a downer, I just think that people should have lived a bit before they marry. Good luck. I hope all goes well for you. Blessed be.
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Posted May 19th, 2009 at 6:02AM
I met my now husband when i was 18 - we were married by the time i was twenty, so yes, it can work. I had played the field a little though; perhaps i had perspective you dont, him being your first. But curiosity killed the cat, so i would be cautious if i were you. Only you can decide what the best course of action is - the grass may seem greener, but i warn you, that it's almost always a trick of the light and no different to your side. I'd listen to my heart if i were you, but let my head have it's tuppence worth too. Incidentally, in case you're worried about your differences; my hubby isnt into the same music as me for the most part, i like to talk, he isn't the chatty type. Im spiritual and he's scientific etc, but remember, opposites attract & this is why we work - we compliment one another; he truly is my 'other half' and these differences are what make us so compatible, so dont worry about not having much in common, you're two halves of the same coin - good luck! :)
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Posted May 19th, 2009 at 11:20AM
Im 20 and He's 24 ,, we r goin' to get engage soon ,, we're sure our love and we arent scared of any obstacles ,,
If you love him,, Just do whatever it makes you both happy Bc once if you've lost the chance ,, It'll never return ....
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