I really think this is a sad viewpoint. If the relationship (or the sex) is that bad, surely its time to have a heart-to-heart. I wouldn't ever want my GF to fake it, and I wouldn't fake it either. <br />
Every now and then, in a healthy relationship, you need to pick the right moment for a good chat about things that are important to you and that you really need to talk about. <br />
if you really need to fake it, that shows a lack of love, trust and warmth. <br />
Perhaps I am lucky to have a good relationship? But they do take work and compassionate understanding on both sides.
Actually, I beg to differ on one of the points you've made here. A woman fakes it for several reasons, but it's not due to a lack of love, trust, or warmth. She does it to please her man. Really! She does it because the sex is just not doing anything for her so she's trying to make it end so that she can do something that pleases her more, like read or sleep. She loves him enough to make sure that at least he gets pleasure from it. If she didn't love him, she'd not react at all and that would spoil the pleasure for him unless he was a totally selfish bastard. Hearing a woman getting close to that special moment helps to push a man over the top and have his moment. She's actually a good woman for faking it. She deserves a man who can please her in return.
man, now be honest: can't you tell when she fakes it? unless she has some godly control of her vagina's muscles and you never had sex with a woman that climaxed, she can't trick you. If you can tell and it's what you need to get off, ok to each their own fetish, but most men who wouldn't bring that up would take a self esteem hit and stop caring since she obviously lies to him. Sorry but patronising someone isn't love, if you love someone you help him grow as a lover. I've said it before: no one wants to love a martyr, people want someone who loves them not who self destructs for them.
maybe you should give it a thought that overusing toys is why you can't have proper intimacy, but hey it's easyer to blame your partner :)
Yes, but as long as you put on a good show why should we mention it?
I'm sorry that you feel that way. You must have bad luck with men.<br />
None of my ladies have faked those. I say that from vast experience and I'm not trying to brag here. Honestly, I'm a very tentative lover and my partner's pleasure is my only priority. I do it for her, not for me. I'll stay in bed with her for as many hours as I need to, in order to make sure that she's completely satisfied. My record so far is 8 hours straight. She had two dozen in that time fr<x>ame. We took a break to freshen up and drink lots of water. It was awesome!<br />
I can tell when a woman is faking it. There are no spasms going on down there and it's not all wet and slippery. My last girlfriend had them so powerfully that her eyes would roll up into her head, she'd curl up into the fetal position, and she'd shake as though she were on ice all naked. She would also speak in her native tongue, which I could not understand. They lasted between 5 and 10 minutes. I memorized one word that she said often and asked her what it meant after she came to. she said it meant "oh god!" Too bad she and I weren't compatible otherwise or else I'd have married her.
LOL, can't women tell when I just wanna handle it myself and get some sleep.
I guess some men just think with their penises, sex, sex, sex is all they want from their women. Shame that some women seem to think that's the only way to keep a man.... not that I'm pointing any fingers...
If you don't want to have sex or it's becoming boring for you at that time then tell him, maybe it'll encourage him to be more giving or caring when he's doing the dirty. If you don't and just "lie there thinking of England then you're just a piece of meat with a hole" - and that's a quote from a pro women's magazine.
personally i find it disgusting that any man would be happy with that kind of sexual relationship because it borders on prostitution.
I guess we're stupid that way. We trust you to tell the truth.
It never ocurred to you that we know and dont care? It never occered to you that when we tell you that you'r the most beatiful and sedutive person we've ever been with that we're faking too? Did you ever stop to think that while your lying there juging our preformance we might be judging yours as well?
If you really listen to your intuition, then I don't think it's at all difficult to tell.
I got the memo, but she insists on keeping mah pekkah
I guess if you're good enough at faking and / or you're with a real narcissist then yes, you ARE fooling us.
If she is not wet she is faking.
i'm hurt :)
:) mums da word babz.
I HEARD THAT!!!!! COLLUSION!!!! BRIBERY!!!! THE FIX IS IN!!!!!
shush ernie. i'l cut you in :)
Wow. Why ham it up when you can spice it up. If you're bored then get off your duff and get creative lady. Sex is a two way street....it's not all his responsibility.
How about just telling him ? Would you want a guy lying to you and expecting you to magically know what he thinks about you? If your sex life is lacking, it's only your fault: no guy ever will try to give you more than you ask for, since you convince them that you are satisfied he doesn't have to do anything for you, so when you're left there unsatisfied and frustrated and bored be happy at least you still have your oscar!
i did fake it when i was younger , now i find that if faking is necessary he is not going to be there for a next time