You first have to 'care' for yourself. Sometimes you is the only person who you should really care for. You don't owe anything to anyone. Keep yourself balanced - just enough care - and then you can start looking at 'caring' for others and how much is enough.<br />
YOU must come first.
When you find out share with me.
Oh the enigma!
Good question. I'm living that right now 😢
My mom is this way, and it does cause her deep hurt. She cares way too much for her adult children. She has a dream of owning a horse... but nope, gotta take care of my single-with-kids sister and me... even though we're capable of living with the conditions that we're in just fine... <br />
Caring "enough" means 'where do I draw the line, what's equitable for me and them?' Sometimes, though, the nurturing instinct just doesn't quit... and that makes it difficult for all involved.<br />
I think communication and honesty would help some. If my mom could be reassured in several ways that my sister and I are just fine, then that might help.<br />
Please don't ever let yourself into a position where there's a moderate chance of being hurt. Be good to yourself, also, as well as them. Balance, balance, balance.<br />
Take care, heart of gold.