HELL NO it is sooooooooooo wrong! It is also lazy on their part. What they need to do is figure out the under lying cause of why the boys are fighting.
First think it's wrong to decide on ones they hurt each other both or neither should be punished...
Second I think that even qualifies as emotional abuse their teaching their children to be violent... But I'd have to ask my dad there...
I do not believe this is good parenting, but then lets not forget that few of us receive training and instruction on proper parenting. Even if we did, every few years the "experts" change their minds on what is good and what is not good parenting.
My personal approach would probably be to aggressor give one of his most prized possessions to the victim for some period of time long enough to make hi or herself stop and think before doing it again.
When my kids got older (about seven or eight) I had a diabolical punishment that they hated so much they would say or do almost anything to avoid it. They had to stand with their toes and their nose against a wall for five minutes without speaking or moving. You would have thought I was beating them with chains as much as they screamed and cried when they got "Nose and Toes."
I believe if one child purposely hits another for no apparent reason then, letting the "innocent" child hit the other back=, letting the offending child know why they are getting hit back, is purposely fine. First, you don't want a child who bullies other children and at the same time you don't want a child growing up who let's others walk over them.
But if they were running around in the house and knocked their heads together, I'd paddle both their behinds, and make them take a time-out, because there's no running in the house. Then attend to any wounds. But, if they did this outside and I didn't witness it, I'd have both sit down and rest. Take it as a lesson learned on what happens when you act this way. You also have to let boys be boys.
Absolutely NOT ok!!
Sounds tough to say. When I was a kid, I was taught that if someone hits you, you can defend yourself. There have only been a few occasions that I deliberately hit a kid back. However, I was not one to go out seeking fights. The parents here should probably learn to discipline the ones who hit in the first place. It seems like by encouraging the one who was hit to hit back...........they're just trying to show them that it is unpleasant to be hit in hopes that they'll stop.
That is so wrong
Two wrongs don't make a right. I had for kids, all fairly close together, so my house was like the monkey house sometimes. In this situation, I would have had the boys apologize to each other, then go spend some time in their rooms to think about it for a little while. I would go to each boy's room, and ask them if they understood why they were being punished, if they answered correctly, they were allowed out of the room. If not, we would talk about what happened until understanding was reached. I was always the parent who would go for the non-violent punishments first. If they pushed me to the point where I say to myself 'This has got to stop right now!' and i would begin grabbing children, swatting them on their butts a time or two, and sent them to their rooms to cry it out. THAT ALWAYS WORKED. So, spankings didn't happen often at all. I would hear one of the boys whispering to a sibling in the dark 'We can't do that! Mom will spank us!'
Thank you. :)
This is just plain bad parenting but people who have no clue how to raise children.
So wrong at so many levels. Good for you for stepping in.
its bad parenting. free shots mindset is why there's so many violence among youths today.
Wrong wrong wrong!!!!!
Tell me... I am curious as to how you would deal with these 2 children if they were yours? The same 2 with same behavior?
A parent cannot spank their child in the United States. Child protective services will be over there and taking both of those children away. "Time out" is about to be chalked up as a no no soon. A parent can't even send their child to their room for a period of time as it is considered imprisonment. These boys are brothers. They will get into knock down drag out's. LOL. They will develop a bond that nothing can come between.
See, this is where it gets to the complicated part. A parent may spank their child, but if it is emotionally damaging that parent can be charged with child abuse. Here is a good link for state by state laws. http://kidjacked.com/legal/spanking_law.asp
This is horrible and should be reported to child services asap.
Deplorable parenting tactics...and still think needs to be addressed by child services...what I wonder is what goes on behind closed doors?