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Considering the fact that I am Bi, why are people so willing to think less of me?

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Because they are too busy judging you on the basis of who you sleep with, that they aren't willing to look at you as a person. Forget them.
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Posted May 6th, 2009 at 12:18PM
Because they are judging you by your life style and are very narrow minded. They can't except things unless they are the way they want them to be. You have to be you, not what they want.
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Posted May 6th, 2009 at 12:18PM
A lot of people say they are bi because it is 'popular' or because they want attention. It isn't fair for us people who are truly bisexual. (yes I am bisexual as well and have dealt with the same thing).
People are judgmental (especially of things they don't understand or are afraid of). Although there isn't a word for being afraid if Bisexuality (like homophobia) but it is similar for some people, they just don't understand it and/or think it is wrong or gross.

How many of those people are willing to do some research on the topic and see what it's really about? Try to understand it? Unfortunately a lot of people are unwilling to try to understand anything they don't like or don't agree with because they are stuck in their ways.

Bisexuals have a stereotype that they are promiscuous, have multiple partners, and are not willing to get close to a partner or settle down or anything like that. A lot of people think bisexuality implies sex and not much else.
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Posted May 6th, 2009 at 12:18PM
because they don't understand....
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Posted May 6th, 2009 at 12:18PM
People who actually know you and care about you wouldn't care about your sexual prefs. So do these other people think less of you because you're bi, or because you advertise it?

Maybe they aren't comfortable with anyone's sexuality made public? If they're strangers, don't let it bother you.
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Posted May 6th, 2009 at 12:18PM
I think the reason people think lower of bisexuals is that they think either A: You're just someone who can't make up your mind, or B: You're greedy and/or a ****... Neither of these things are necessarily true. Most bisexuals HAVE made up there mind and chosen to love and/or sleep with whoever they choose and are just not hung up on gender. and being Bi does not mean that you'll sleep with any and every person you meet either... People shun what they do not understand
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Posted May 6th, 2009 at 12:18PM
Why do you tell them? Is it any of their business? As a heterosexual woman I don't introduce myself or inform my friends and coworkers of my sexuality because it's none of their business.

Perhaps they think less of you not because you are bi - but because you feel the need to share your choice of sexual preference with them (as if they would actually be interested)
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Posted May 6th, 2009 at 12:17PM
Hey thanks for commenting on my poem:)

I know exactly what you mean. I'm Bi and I find that out of the two types of people that know, it's the strangers who think less of me, not the people I've actually told myself.

I told my best long-distance friend of 2 years that I was bi, and he was great, but then his friends all suddenly wanted to meet "the mysterious bisexual". When they met me, they said hello and then ignored me. Only him who didn't.

I think it's because being straight, most people can relate better to gay people because they only like one gender aswell. Whereas being Bi must be harder to understand because not only do we like our own gender, but also the opposite one.

probably because they (whether they be straight or gay) are so used to having feelings for a single gender, they don't think it's possible. When it is really literally as simple as 1 + 1 = 2.

And that disability to understand something they don't feel, is the foundation for misconceptions like "Bisexuals are confused/can't make up their mind/greedy/people who sleep around/really just gay/really just straight/fake"

also many people don't think there's a difference between sexual preference and sexual orientation. It's like prefering strawberry Ice cream and never touching another flavour because it's somehow "wrong" to like vanilla aswell. thats how I explain it to people usually.
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Posted May 6th, 2009 at 12:17PM
Well it's like this. It doesn't really matter if your bi or not. People have a tendency to look down on other people..Why I can't stand most people...They would think less of you no matter what. Either you would be too fat, or too skinny, or smoke too much or drink too much or be too religious, or be too weird, or be too rich or too poor, or too loud or too quiet...well, you get my drift...Fck em! Thats what I said when I was about 6 and never changed my mind since.
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Posted May 6th, 2009 at 12:17PM
because it is not in many people's values to accept.
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Posted May 6th, 2009 at 12:19PM
Do these people really Matter in your life?
Just be proud of who YOU are, let them all live with their head's firmly implanted up their B__!
They are so not worth a second thought!
Be proud of who you are.
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Posted May 6th, 2009 at 12:19PM
Because nearly all people are ********. Everybody feels the need to find somebody to look down on.
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Posted May 6th, 2009 at 12:20PM
They are narrow-minded jerks who blinded there eyes with old traditional believes and dont even dare enough to accept what news in the world !

Shame On Them !

Hey! I'm bi too ;)
I gotcha feeling Lol ...

No point to waste our times feeling upset with those jerks ! Let's play Lol !
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Posted May 6th, 2009 at 12:21PM
I to am Bisexual and married to a man but I will no longer tell people this because of the disrespect and other reactions. What people don't know or haven't experienced they will fear or hate on. Another stereotype is that Bisexual women are permiscuous. Which obviously isn't true but that could be an answer to your question. Just remember to be who you are no matter what!
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Posted May 6th, 2009 at 12:21PM
They look down on ANY sexual preference that they don't understand or agree with.

Don't mind them - and don't obtrusively tell them about your preferences. But I suppose one can hardly deny them if asked - if you lay any store by your integrity. Its sad, but many people do not think of others as "Spiritual beings having a human experience"; as brother / sister beings, and somewhat at the mercy of what body has been provided them, wth all its quirks of genetics and hormones - that they are landed with and have to make the best of.

Have a bit of compassion and consideration, folks! Next life, YOU might be landed with it!
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Posted Mar 31st, 2009 at 12:52AM
Heh, I think this is funny, because I am looked down upon because I am not bi not to mention a million other little things that I dont do that "normal" people or women do.

People have just became so damn sure of themselves that they don't believe any other way but theirs is right, what they fail to realize is that each person has a different path to walk to reach their destiny.

Don't worry about those who think less of you, instead focus on those who think everything of you.

To some eyes you will be the enemy.
To others you will be the hero.

As long as you stand up for what is true and right in your heart then you can go on in life knowing that you are exactly who you want to be.
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Posted May 6th, 2009 at 12:22PM
I don't know why people have the issue of looking down on people for reasonslike this. I have had that same problem. You just have to be proud of yourself and stand up and say this is who I am your approval is NOT needed! I worried about what people would think when I first discovered this about myself, but I soon learned that no matter what you are there are always going to be people who look down on you for something. Don't worry what others think (even though I know sometimes it's hard) and just be proud of who you are and have fun being you =]
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Posted Mar 26th, 2009 at 3:48AM
Jealousy. At least you have better odds finding a date.
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Posted Mar 25th, 2009 at 5:18PM
I have no Idea of why people are so brain dead. I have had friends over the years who are gay, Bi, straight, and my closest friend is a F to M transsexual. I don't think any less of you. In fact I think highly of you for being able to stand up and say this is who I am!
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Posted Mar 26th, 2009 at 7:53PM
I Don't!....Your Sexual Preferences are YOUR business

and NOBODY ELSES'
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