It's this co-worker's problem, not yours. It could be ignorance and/or fear; a lot of people don't know what to say or do around mental health issues. And they don't know what questions to ask, or how to ask them.<br />
You have no reason to apologize. She's the one blowing this all out of proportion. My best advice would be to keep acting normal around her, treating her exactly like you do your other co-workers. Hopefully in time she'll relax enough to at least speak to you.<br />
Wishing you all the best in a tough situation.
Unfortunately, there are people in the world who are very ignorant about this kind of stuff. She's probably the type of person who thinks that if your sister has a mental illness, you must have something going on too. I get this all the time. My grandmother was shizophrenic and when I tell people this they assume I have some sort of mental illness too. If this is the case with her, then just stop talking to her. I personally would just stop talking to her anyway because she doesn't sound like a good friend anyway and you deserve someone who will listen to your problems and support you.
Well, it doesn't sound like you did anything wrong. It just sounds like she's the sort of person who doesn't like to get into any deep conversations and avoids stuff like that. Well good luck with everything!
I agree with you TheReikoku. All the way.
I agree with welshbabe. I wouldn't apologize. Just ignore her and move on with your life. She's not a real friend.
Why bother letting her know that she hurt you? Stop giving her your time, energy and heart. She's always hurting you and I don't think she acts like the type of friend that you are looking for. Just my opinion but I guess you have to do what you think is best for you. :)
I absolutely agree with you! lagatta! :D Great advice my darling friend :D :D
You may have stir up some bad memory s related to a issue that has nothing to do with you and when she sees you she is reminded of those issues hence the reason why she avoids you...
Ignored, i think that was a bit harsh! i should have used "avoided"! sorry to be so! callas! But nah! not worth worrying over. "Is she you"!?? "NO"!! exactly!
it's not you.........it's her...........a lot of people can't deal with that kind of truth......i live it.......& i understand.......i apologize for her & the many others that will come
i understand ;-)
No, you don't need to apologize for telling the truth. I know it hurts, but time to find new friends. I have fellow classmates while during our study group (to answer a question for a test) said the answer to the question is "get another phlebotomist to be with you. Those psychiatric patients are unpredictable"<br />
I was offended but kept my mouth shut because it was discrimanatory.<br />
you can be social and friends at work, but remeber, bottom line, it's still a work environment so keep personal stuff like that, personal.
I read your question. Personally if that was me! "No" i wouldn't apologise for telling her at all. Her problem i feel. Not yours. I wouldn't go asking her for forgiveness! "NO"!!! way! You'll just have to get on with living your life and try ignoring her. Sorry this sounds so grim,. I'm writing on how i would feel. <br />
It will be interesting to see what other good EPeeps would say and do.
No! my babes! No problem darling! No harm done. You know that gorgeous don't you!? :D :D
As far as I'm concerned - you've done nothin' wrong.
U hav answered ur own question. Her behaviour tells u the answr. She is the **hole. Not u. She seem to be all about herself. A sponger. User. Taker and not interested in being drawn into others drama. Dont feel bad. Just be dismissive professional and move on. Create some personal boundaries
maybe she felt you were talking about your problems too much, i have a sister with schizophrenia but i dont tell coworkers about it, its none of their business, she probably thought you could have it, one of the reasons why i dont tell people about my sister is because they start assuming i have problems too
There are many supposed educated people who do not understand mental issues. They do not understand that none of us are free of a "mental problem of some sort". In her ignorance she has lost a friend. Do not try and force yourself upon her. Just chalk it up to the fact that she is living with misinformation. But, you cannot teach her. She will only know the truth when she or someone in her family has a "mental" issue. Count her as gone. It may hurt much, but I have had the same thing happen to me. You will get over it. She is the loser in this deal. Forget her.
I don't understand why you feel like you did something wrong? As things are, I think it would be a tragedy for you to conclude such a thing. I understand why you have assessed the situation as such, since you saw/noticed a 'change' in her behavior toward you AFTER you confided this very sensitive information with her. BUT think about it, could there not be another situation of which has nothing to do with what you're thinking? What if you are reading things wrong? Why wouldn't you make an effort to make sure you have not misread the situation and ask her if there is anything going on? <br />
I just don't see any reason why someone would have a change of heart toward you because you have a sister with mental issues. I am curious about what made you tell her anyways? <br />
And IF you do ask her, please let us know. It would be interesting to know why this information would affect your friendship.<br />
Blessings to you all. <3
What seems clear to me is you are assuming to know things when you could be wrong. You said it right, you FEEL she is avoiding you. Yet you say that you both have been friends for years. Wow! It may be she that learns she never knew you since your FEELINGS may be wrong!
No one has said it was not ok, so this tells me that your guilty feelings are yours alone. Look, I understand, I am a creature of my emotions because I am very sensitive. But I tell you something, I never base my knowledge on my feelings when it comes to friends.
Friends ask for confirmation from their loved ones before making permanent choices about whether to terminate said long term friendship, which you seem so ready and willing to do and all without offering her the benefit of the doubt.
I pray, if she is innocent of your FEELINGS being right, that you have a change of heart and speak to her before you make a decision about this. Blessings to you all.
Well first off she knows you don't have a sister. She thinks your admission is a little strange. Possibly, she believes you are making this all up. Even if it was all true, it is not important enough to warrant a comment. Just walk up to her and say, let's have an ice cream for lunch. Bet she would be buds in an instant.