Did my x disrespect me?

Im a lesbian, I was living with my X until yesterday. She respectfully asked if it would be alright if her current "love interest" could come by and visit her, I had no problem with that. They also went to my room and talked, laughed, because they were smoking and I didnt want the smell in the living room. I was cool with that. What I wasnt cool with was the fact that my bedroom door had to be closed for 4 hours and I was visibly upset after he left. i ended up telling her I thought she disrespected me, and she doesnt see why. I told her, IM not going to tell you what you did if you dont already know. She got angry because she claimed she didnt know how she disrespected me and some words were exchanged and she moved out! MAKE A LONG STORY SHORT. waS i diSRESPECTED?????????? wHAT DO YOU THINK???

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she's oblivious and only saw what she was gaining as opposed to your suffering...I'm sorry. You're a chill person, you must be more honest though because they won't see why you are upset--they were too wrapped up in their own joy and pleasure to notice your pain. Tell them why you're upset...then say you'll never do something nice like that again because you were taken advantaged of...definitely!

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Coyotegray	Posted Jun 16th, 2009 at 9:00PM You obviously had an open relationship. So, where was the "disrespect"? Much more interesting is the whole - "you've been bad but I'm not going to say how because you should just magically know how I feel" game. That is really a messed-up trip to run on anybody's head. If I were you, I'd figure out what the hell you were doing with that disfunctional interaction - and do it soon - or else you're very likely to have a long string of Ex's who "disrespect" you. Rated: +3Vote for this!
unicorn59	Posted Jun 16th, 2009 at 1:56PM I think you did it to yourself, the minute you said she could bring her new love interest over.... Why torture yourself like that? She probably really doesn't know what she did wrong.... Rated: +2Vote for this!
Cowmaster	Posted Jun 16th, 2009 at 1:59PM They could have just been talking... But yea..letting him in in the first place was also a goof on your part. the correct answer is "No B****....he can't come in" Rated: +1Vote for this!
Artisina	Posted Jun 16th, 2009 at 2:59PM You said the person could come over and you let them go into your bedroom to smoke! Are you upset because they were in there for so long? Or because the guy was there in the first place. People aren't mind readers. Start being honest with people about what is ok and what isn't and you won't have so many mishaps. I don't think you were disrespected. I see it as a lack of comunication. Good luck.:) Rated: +1Vote for this!
JADEDRUCKUS	Posted Jun 16th, 2009 at 3:02PM I would have asked her how long the "love interest" was going to be there, then maybe went to see a movie or something instead of staying there..I think she did it to rub this new person in your face..I will bet if you wouldn't have been there then they would not have stayed as long or even came there to the house!! Rated: +1Vote for this!
Quagmyre	Posted Jun 16th, 2009 at 3:48PM i think you were! (PS: I love lesbians!!!) Rated: +1Vote for this!
VictorianRose101	Posted Jun 16th, 2009 at 4:47PM communication is the key in a relationship. she might not have understood why you was angry. if you try to explain to her and she understands but refuses to allow you to feel the anger you do at what happened (as has happened with me in the past) then this is disrespect, because it is denying you your basic human right to feel, to speak up about your feelings and to be heard. Rated: +1Vote for this!
mzdivine	Posted Jun 16th, 2009 at 5:24PM ALL THE ABOVE!! Rated: +1Vote for this!
Shoreboy	Posted Jun 16th, 2009 at 10:17PM What everybody else said... basically, you told someone one thing and then expected something else. Not to sound condescending but nobody disrespected you... you disrespected yourself. If it was going to bother you that your ex-GF was bringing her new BF (and that means she's Bisexual I'm guessing?) into your shared home you should have said something. I also don't follow how you are okay with the smell of smoke in your bedroom but not your living room. Personally, I would think the room you spend nearly a third of your life in would be your 'sanctum sanctorum' and you wouldn't want her in there except with you present, but that's just me. Rated: +1Vote for this!

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