Just take a look at the youth today that should answer your question
IT'S NOT WRONG.
MANY KIDS LACK ANY KIND OF DISCIPLINE.
Nope not at all
I never physically disciplined my son..(he is 21 now) so for me, no I don't believe in it. Interesting question though. I work for my state's Child Protective Services department and the state mandates that children can be physically disiplined, however, you can not leave a mark on the child. Sound bizarre, I think, but it's the law. i find in a lot of cases I come across, the parent that does physically discipline does it when they (the parent) are at the end of their rope and angry at the world...so when the child does something wrong the parent reaction is off-the-charts inappropriate...and that, is a big problem.
Aside from obvious abusive punishment, it is not the type of punishment that makes a difference, it's the fairness, the consistency and the age appropriateness of the punishment. Children need to know clearly what the limits are and what to expect when or if they step over them; it is chaotic and inconsistent households that stress children and make it hard for them to grow up as disciplined adults, not any particular type of punishment.
If you can train a dog with out hitting it - then you can teach a child without hitting them
I'm with you.
That's what my mum did and I'm fine.
But each child is different.
Spare the rod; spoil the child...
All I know is that I remember that my parents would spank me and one day I realized that getting spanked was way better then losing out on a weekend of fun. So it stop bothering me... unfortunately they stopped doing it soon after that.
I don't hit my kids and they're a lot better behaved than those of many parents that do. I'm not totally against smacking children (I too was smacked) but there are a few rules:
1 - the idea is to 'shock' the child, not to actually hurt them
2 - if the smacking is to make the parent feel better (vent anger, whatever) then its always wrong. No exception.
3 - as long as it is not always the punishment of choice. You get kids that grow up immune to it, and parents who seem to forget that there are almost always alternatives.
4 - (the most important one) when the kid starts hitting other people, the parent had better have a ####ing good way of explaining the difference.
Nothing TOO abusive. See anything wrong with this statement?
Yeah! The Question is fuct. The ideal it just as such!
There is a clear distinction between discipline and abuse and any idiot would know it. That said I don't think physical discipline is completely -necessary-, but I have no issue with it provided discipline creates a happy child instead of a scared, traumatized one.
I was spanked, I didn't turn into a serial killer. I have a paddle and I assure you, each of the few times Ive used it made the impression I was hoping for. I just have to mention the paddle in most cases. There are a lot of kids running the show at their houses and that is much worse.
it's odd I don't think it was wrong when me and my cousins used to pick our own switches and line up small to tall , my poor cousin kevin had to go last and we would all quit crying , and giggle to watch him dance..............but I don't like physical punishment for my children....I mean I think my as* whippings made me a little better?...... it doesn't make sense?.....oh well.
lol.. well if your kids have cell phones or tv or a radio then i would take it away rather than hit them. when i lived with my mom and i did something wrong she would beat me.. i was mad but i would of been even more upset if she took what i most value. Aaaaahh my cell phone, good luck, wink!
Spanking or using a rod is always wrong imo, the most I think is OK is a tap for something really naughty but I wouldn't even do that.
Naughty children need a spanking from time to time to get to the bottom of it.
No. I think everything can be solved with good communication.