Do I have to like my boyfriends parents?

No, you don't have to like them, but you do need to be civil and courteous to them. MIL's feel threatened by the perceived usurping of their power over their sons. Learn to pity her insecurity (privately) and get over the stupid things she says. After all, you get to go home with him -- and she doesn't!

No you don't have to like them, but if you want a future with your boyfriend you will have to tolerate them if they are a part of his life. I think in this situation your boyfriend needs to stand up for you. I understand if this is difficult for him as his loyalty is first with his mom, but he could tell her not to talk negative about you. He could tell her that if she puts you down, that it's hurting him. I don't know if it will have an effect. With some people it's a matter of gradually learning to zone them out.

well part of having a good relationship is getting along with your mates parents. You shouln't ingore it or just deal with it you should tell her how you feel in a very firm way and if you havent already tell your mate before you tell her. If talking to her and telling her how you feel doesnt work then you should say "ok i understand that you do not approve of me dating your son but i love him and i belive he loves me so im staying with him and wether you like it or not and we will start a family so you can be a part of it without your disrespectful and rude comments or you can not. thats what i would do hope it works =]

You should politely tell her how you feel, but if she still acts like an idiot just be the better person and be overly nice to her. It will make you look like a better person.

You have a difficult situation. If a stove is hot and burns your hand, you pull your hand away and don't touch it again. It is different is someone hurts your feelings. Sometimes you go back for more and get hurt over and over, hoping for a different outcome. You probably need to have a heart to heart discussion with your boyfriend and find out why he allows his mother to talk to you that way. Don't let him tell you that he can't help what his mother says. If he cannot have a discussion with his mother now, he probably never will, and things will only escalate into more hurt. Maybe his mother feels that the child would be better off with his biological parents back together. I wish I could tell you that you may eventually win his mother over, but it sounds like her mind is already made up, no matter what you do, she thinks you're the reason her son isn't going back to her grandson's mother. You can choose to keep putting up with this, or you can choose to move on to people who will appreciate and respect you. Tough choice, but you're the only one who can make it. Best of luck to you, I wish you the best.

No, you don't have to necessarily like anyone. However, you Do have a right to be who they are, REGARDLESS OF YOUR OPINION OF THEM! You maty not agree with the views and opnions of your boyfriend's parents --- or of another person, for that matter--- but that does NOT give you the right to be rude to them, in any case! Treat others the way you would like them to treat you and, in most cases, you will find that they will do the same!


NE ELSE FOR TAHT MATTER--- BUT TAHT DOES not GIVE YOU THE RIGHT TO BE rude TO THEM!

My boyfriend's mother hated me. I got back at her though. I married him.

No, and my suggestion is to kill her with kindness. Make her feel that you are attentive to her wishes and agree with what she says, but you don't have to. Secondly tell your lame as boyfriend to step up and control his mother. If he likes/love you he has to have the balls to straighten out his mother.

If you are considering pursuing a serious relationship with your boyfriend, then you have to, at the very least, show respect for your would-be-in-law no matter how she has been behaving and what she has been telling you. I think you should expect this behavior somehow from her because you are a threat to her son's and grandson's love and attention. Don't think of it as a personal attack to you, am sure she would do the same to any other girl who's in your place now. Maybe it's a way to test what kind of stuff you are made of. You can never go wrong with being civil with her. It would also be better if you can let your boyfriend know what's going on and how you are feeling about it so he can provide support to you whenever you find yourself in a similar situation again. I think this behavior will stop only after you have earned her trust. Prove to her that you are not out to dethrone her and that you will be good for her son. Best of luck to you. :)

I disagree with ladybug... I think you are better off standing up for yourself and demanding respect as his girlfriend. Don't be rude about it, but simply confront her alone and politely state "John (whatever) and I have been dating for 2 years and he and 'his Son's name" have become very important to me as I know they are important to you. I'm not asking you to forget about or stop caring for the mother of your grandson, but I am asking you to respect that your son has divorced her and is now sharing his life with me. That means we need to show some respect for one another as adults and I would like to request that you refrain from comparing her to me especially in front of 'John' and his son. As to your son and I's private life quite honestly that is really none of your business just as my asking about your husband and your sex life would be none of mine.'
I think you might be surprised by the result. Either she will turn 'nasty' on you and at that point you tell "John" about it and mention that you won't feel comfortable being around her while she is acting so childishly about your relationship with him, or she may just gain some real respect for you and begin to treat you as his son's choice in a relationship. Either way... if you do this you know you took the 'adult' position about it and can hold your head up that you stood up for yourself... Just my two cents of course.

You'll have a helluva life if you stayin that relationship. Does your BF has a spine? Why doesn't he tell his Mom to back off?

Personally, I think you're nuts for getting involved with a guy with a kid. At your age, there are so many other fish in the sea. Why are buying yourself a barrel of trouble? Do you thrive on drama and crisis?