we've all had our days of whining about something in our past. If we practice trying to validate another persons feelings, and help them through whatever it is they are going through (doesn't mean we have to like or agree with them) then they might evolve into caring for themselves more and stop being a victim. If we are so fortunate to be that friend to be hearing their troubles, the least we can do is finish the job.
idk but I know I get tired of hearing men whining about how women done them wrong.
I am no man, but, if I were, I would run, not walk ....from these chicks, they like being door mats or it would not happen more than once....
you are welcome, I've been around a while, you can take me at my word....
Maybe if she felt that a guy actually listened and understood maybe she wouldn't whine about as much. Women's painbody world wide is so much bigger then men's. Women are emotional creatures - men should know this by now.
Hey I take complaining to an artform. Sometimes whining is venting. Doesn't mean that they are negative or pathetic individuals.
I would get sick of anyone who whines about being a victim
I guess the word "whine" threw me off. An abused women has every right to feel how she feels and express themselves. But if she can't learn from her mistakes and keeps going back to abusive situations, she must be getting something out of it. Some people like to play the victim I guess
lol. if a woman can figure out what makes abusive douchebags tick and what it is they really want from them then perhaps everyone can live happily ever after.
i guess for a guy firend it can almost be like watchi ng an inevitable train wreck. women, believe it or not, cannot help who they fall in love with. nice guys are always suspect. guys with edge can promise interesting times anyway.
One could say the same thing about guys who whine about being mistreated by attractive but spoiled women. Its called youth, my dear, everyone does stupid things when they are young. We all have to go through lousy relationships to gain experience to appreciate the good ones later in life.
Well there's the problem. A lot of guys are not honest and misrepresent themselves with women to get laid. You may be honest about your desires but most men aren't, especially the older ones. Plus, many people of both genders come from abusive backgrounds and that is all they know. They recreate the abuse because they have never been exposed to anything else. This cycle can go on for generations.
You asked for an explanation. That is what I am giving. I came from an abusive background too and I am one of the few in my family that stood up to the abusers. I changed the dynamic and maybe you did too, but not everyone is that strong. There are many that just cannot break out of this cycle and they are the women and men that seek out abusive relationships.
An excellent question my friend. This could get ugly but I admire your bravery :-) Oh and your cojones. :-)
juicyboy... I was always so cautious and smart, never gave anyone a chance until a couple years ago.. my first boyfriend, mind you I'm in my mid twenties and have had MANY suitors... he seemed so perfect, almost... always treated me kind, was helpful, generous and able to admit when he was wrong ect., but had issues at home.. major daddy issues that would make him emotionally unstable.. he said I was the one and that he loved me so much and wanted to get married.. our lives and dreams seemed to line up quite well and he had a good heart and seemed righteous and loving so I thought he was the one too.. he proposed and before that happened I was starting to question it because he would make a lot of poor choices and was trying too hard to get married, but I figured maybe it was just hard times and when he popped the question I said yes even though I was unsure.. big mistake I guess... we've been engaged for over a year now and it's just gone downhill.. he was so strong in the beginning, now he's become such a weak person and is so far from the kind of guy I'd want to marry... as many times as I've tried to dump him he just doesn't let go and says how he wants to be the man I deserve yada yada yada but still hasnt changed... he did struggle with IBS so I figured that the the source of most of his problem but now after all this time and how I use to support him I think it's just him... If I can get tricked, anyone woman can and it SUCKS! I hope I'm wrong.