"Men are genetically programmed to be poligymous."


okay my advice? do NOT listen to this guy, he has NO idea what he's talking about, plus he can't spell =)

Do women want their men to look like Brad Pitt, George Clooney or whoever. We all have fantasies, but most of us know the difference and, at least to me, women in the media are not real women, they are characters that someone has made up like a story for us to enjoy and it ends there. Thinking that, to me, is saying that your husband thinks he settled when he married you, and I doubt any man, worth a crap, feels that way. He married you because you are who he wanted to spend his life with. Doesn't mean he doesn't like to look at the pretty girl on TV, but that is all it is.

Heck no. He likes her precisely as she is. Her every uniqueness is why he came to her and why they stay where they are. Her being someone else in any form would be a disservice to the peace they have found.

Physical appearance shouldn't come into it, really. Yet looking at some of the other questions in this category it concerns some.

I can't answer for other men, but my man loves me for who I am, not what I look like!

I for one have always wished my girl friend looked like Phyllis Diller.

JIMMY SOUL - IF YOU WANT TO BE HAPPY
(F. Guida; C. Guida; J. Royster)
Stateside HSS 1078

If you want to be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So for my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you

If you want to be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So for my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you

A pretty woman makes her husband look small
And very often causes his downfall
As soon as he marries her then she starts
Doing the things that will break his heart
But if you make an ugly woman your wife
Then you will be happy for the rest of your life
An ugly woman cooks meals on time
She'll always give you peace of mind

If you want to be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So for my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you

If you want to be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So for my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you

So if your friends say you have no taste
Go ahead and marry anyway
Though her face is ugly her eyes don't match
Take it from me she's a better catch

If you want to be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So for my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you

If you want to be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So for my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you

Say kid yes
I saw your wife the other day, uu huh
And she's ugly
Ha ha but she sure can cook

If you want to be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So for my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you

If you want to be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So for my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you

I think men do enjoy looking at attractive women but I think most men can tell the difference between real women like you and fantasy women like Angelina Jolie.

My fiance drools over Angelina Jolie and I don't get upset by it. Likewise, I drool over Johnny Depp and he's not bothered by it. Heck, it's not like either of us would have a chance in hell anyway!

Just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean you stop noticing attractive men/women. I'm engaged not dead! :-P

I hope not. If they do I'll never be in a serious relationship with a man...

I'm not going to read over this before posting so I beg you indulgence with the terrible sentence structure, spelling, grammar and possibly missing or repeated words. I think I may have a touch of dislexia.

As one contributor has already said. Don't women wish thier husband looked like brad pitt. The answer is probably yes they do, that does not for a moment suggest that they would actually trade their partner to be with brad pitt (though some probably would :))

Disgusting magazines? I assume you are referring to ***********. As a male (31 years old) I have long been annoyed by this irritating attidude of women. Men have twice the sex drive at least that you do and men are visually stimulated. You are not. The bloody gall of women to judge men like that when they utterly clueless of the male experience. For men, sex and lust in general can be utterly disassosiated from the individual involved. I bet if you asked your husband what the last girl he looked at in a magazine looked like; he would not be able to describe her. Sex for men can be utterly devoid of emotional content. This is usually not the case for women.

When men see beautiful women on television, of course they find them attractive. Men are genetically programmed to be poligymous. This does not even a tiny bit reduce how attractive he finds you to be. Speaking from personal experience here, my last girlfriend was quite pretty and fairly slim but not hollywood standard on either count. I would choose to have sex with her everytime given the choice. I had feelings for her and they made her more attractive to me than might be objectively exspected. Also, I'm certain that she would have said if being honest that brad pitt was far more attractive than me. He is far more attractive than me. That is a fact. That does not mean that she didn't find me attractive or that she was imagining being with brad pitt all the time.

Most people are fairly realistic. Brad Pitt is exceptional as are most of hollywoods leading men, the same is true of the women. It would be foolish and self defeating to expect your partner to live up to those standards.

Supermodels by the by are some of the least attractive women I can think of. The vast majority of men like slim women not skinny women those this may not be true of your husband. Men are nutorisous for the wide variety of things they find attractive. My brother for instance loves women to have a few extra pounds on. He finds toned utterly unattractive. I suspect that if he married you, he finds you attractive. Pay no heed what so ever to him looking at a magazine or a hot woman on tv. Men thrive on variety and it is nothing but an instantly forgotten fantasy. It is you he will be looking for when the time comes to actually do anything.

All that said, if you were slim when you married and subsequently balloned or simply stopped making any effort to be attractive, then he is likely not to delighted with the change. You should make some effort to be attractive. The same goes for him. He has developed a big fat beer belly since the nuptuals, kick his *** out to the gym. You don't have to be anything like perfect, but you both will enjoy eachother more if a little effort is made. It is ultimeatly your own appearance that will govern his desire, not the appearance of unreal women, airbrushed to within an inch of their lives. They are a fantasy and that all he treats them as.

They just like to look - most men would be intimidated by such a beautiful woman and they would feel insecure next to her, a man likes a woman to be his equal (IMO) so that his ego isn't bruised by being seen with a women who is less attractive than himself or someone that all his mates will try and bed!!

We're all human and we all look at others. It's not all about you, you know. That sounds rude but it's the truth; him thinking you are attractive and thinking another woman is attractive are two separate things and it's nothing you should take personally. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you the way you are.

Have you ever heard of the forbidden fruit? Most men look at beautiful women and some wish that they could have one. Some fantasize about having relations with some of them but most never so. Looks arent everything. Most men talk the talk but never take the walk. We always want what we cant have and to have it is erotic. When it comes to the REAL thing men want the women they have. They would have to worry to much about losing a beautiful woman but to keep the woman they have puts them at peace. That is not an insult against the woman they have just the way it is.

The simple answer is no, I don't believe they wished their women looked like the women on tv do. Everyone looks at everyone else, it's just appreciating the male/female form. He is not judging or comparing you with the images in the magazines and on tv, you are doing that to yourself. Do you wish you looked like that? I think you are lacking self esteem and self worth. Unless your partner is actively saying "Why don't you look like that?" then I don't think it's a problem. I'm a straight female who loves the male form, but even I can appreciate a good-looking woman

Not if they love them for who they are! A wom...a person is so much more than their appearance. I've seen lots of women that I find attractive, but in most cases the more I get to know them the less attractive they become. That doesn't mean I don't enjoy looking.
Besides, we're all going to get old (if we're lucky) and loose most of our looks. If we base our life partner choice on appearance, then that relationship is destined to be disappointing.
My advice is to let him be who he is and if you don't love who he is then move on. If he's past the age of say ... 10, he's not going to change.

It's very simple really. If your man is wishing you looked like someone else then he really isn't in a serious relationship. Looks are the icing not the filling.

ignore cc2008, he's not as awesome as he seems to think.
excuse me for liking **** and having a sex drive, jerk.

But seriously, honey, if he's with you, it's because he wants to be.

I say look but dont touch,other wish I would have to kill him!!Not really!!But thats what i tell him!