Do men who truly love you just lose interest in the physical part of love one day for no reason? There has got 2 b one.
I've been married two months. I was having issues with finding a good job, but now I have a great one, there are no sudden changes in my appearance, most men notice me. But my husband? Not so much.
Edit; I realize you need more details, the first two years of dating out sex life was good, probably about once per week. Maybe a little more at times. Then it suddenly came to a screeching halt. Three months would go by and I thought I was going to pull my hair out. I thought it was possibly due to a medication he was on, he finally got off it. He is still so distant. Unfortunately being touched is how I feel loved. My number one way... It's been two more years now that we have averaged maybe 10 times per year of sex, and when we do, it feels like he isn't really that into it.
9 Answers to "Do men who truly love you just lose interest in the physical part of love one day for no reason? There has got 2 b one."
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Honestly shy men feel kinda awkward once we've had sex with them.. u need to express that everything's okay and still the same between both of u.. don't mention about ur past sex with him for a long time and he'll be fine soon..
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not so much ? you mean he has interest but not so much as before marry ? if yes then you should try to change him as before , if you can't do that then change your husband :(
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Sex is the rside effect of other things going on between a couple. Of course, sex is sometimes just sex, meaning.. you just want to have it and you should gett it, even if your partner does not want to have it.. Love is that you can satisfy your insticnts and have your husband just to do that.... but sex is also the result of great communication, opennes and transparency. When you have great communication, it ends up in having trust, not being judge, being able to talk about everything, your most inner thoughts...So you are able to express all you have in your m i nd and heart without the fear of being judged, with the person you are suppose to be in love with....SO my question to you is.. are you sure both are sharing all you can and are open to each other about what is going on in your lives that at the end would result in a fantastic session of incredible sex?
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It could be a few things: Illness/medications affecting his sex drive, guilt & shame of the inability to perform. It could be another woman, hell now in days could be another man, wouldn't be a shocker. He could be missing something from you that you're not getting, and he's horrible at communicating, as well as yourself. The only way to make this issue better is to communicate the issues at hand, and have two willing people that want the relationship to actually work. The proof will be in the pudding, you can either swallow it, or throw it away. Not many choices. Praying that everything works out for the best for both of you.
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To answer your question, I would say,,,,Hell No!
The coldness, distance and aloofness are signs of a psychological issue.
I feel so bad fer you b'cuz it seems that you have tried everything, including taking a long hard look at yerself,,,but it ain't you Darlin...
The sad part is he's setting you up and putting you out there, vulnerable to an affair and the attention and admiration or another fella who will give you what you need and deserve.Like (1)
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Go to some sex counseling. Honestly, I don't understand how all these people have sexless lives. That is just crazy. Experiment, find out how to get your man into a state of pure utter desire. It may be work and a week long venture to get him there, but once he is in that state, you will be able to have sex with him.
Try this and this is just my creative thinking here. Tell him, you want to go down on him for five minutes each morning (you have to work with him and get his buy in) and then at the end of the week, you want him to do whatever he wants with your body, all he has to do is gain the courage to tell you about it. Do this for a week straight and then the last day, let him do whatever he wants to you. If you have boundaries (try not to have too many), let him know up front. Saying something like, "I want to know your deepest desire. I may not be okay with it at first, but even if I'm not, I will be open to changing so that I can fulfill your deepest fantasies."
Don't let fighting or etc get in the way. Be his love slave and make sure you have plenty of time to do what he wanted to do.
You can also have him write to you describing his fantasies. If he does open up, don't be critical. This way, he can drive his desires toward you without any bad emotions.Like (1)
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When I am in the bedroom, sorry I am sort of shy about talking real details with anyone other than my husband because I dont want to be inappropriate, but I am the type of girl who basically it turns me on just to turn him on. He sometimes could just lay there me serving him so to speak. If you are both that same way, you are almost fighting to pleasure one another first so to speak.. This is the way I have always been turns me on to make him happy. So what's the problem!? Right?
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Get over the shyness. We all have sex, no big deal. Not that you have to post intimate details here, but you can ask close friends for advice or a SEX COUNSELOR. :) You can always shoot me an e-mail. Sometimes an outsider can give some good advice and be easy to talk to.
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That sounds weird. Maybe he's stressed our or threatened by your job? You bee to talk to him and find out what's up.
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No, I know for sure he is totally relieved I am working & making money again. He says he doesn't know what is wrong, and that it isn't me. The issue makes him uncomfortable to talk about. He doesn't have Ed. He can force himself to go thru the motions. He just seems to have a total lack of interest. I know I can't live my whole life like this. I feel so rejected.
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It's horrible situation so soon after getting married. No one wants to be rejected. Do you think there's someone else?
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there's gotta to be more to this................
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I agree. I have asked him to see a dr. Just to make sure there isn't a hormone or illness issue. If he is physically fine, we need to go to counseling. Before I lose my mind. Before I am tempted to leave.
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Posted by Drzewowit Jun 12th, 2012 at 5:40AM
Man are humans too. There are things going inside. there are stresses and tiredness...
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