Do middle eastern men really think of white women as "playthings"? :O
Someone with a fair bit of experience told me this recently, and I was appalled, as I tend to be attracted to middle eastern men! Is this true?! I was told they will never consider a white woman as a serious love or marriage potential.
Since everyone seems to be misunderstanding the intent of this question, I'll add a disclaimer: I AM NOT RACIST AND I DO NOT GENERALIZE.
18 Answers to "Do middle eastern men really think of white women as "playthings"? :O"
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Any man can be like that. AS well as women. You were probably talking to a bitter women.
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Actually, two women and one man have mentioned this phenomenon to me. All three of which have valid experience with it.
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You didn't honestly believe that ALL middle eastern men would be like that, did you?
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omg.. so ignorant. Do all Americans think of Middle Eastern men as barbaric infidels of the East?
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Oh yeah, I'm ignorant because I asked a simple question. *rolls eyes*
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Let me ask: Why does America try to conceal the fact that it has the highest rape statistics ?
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I was married for 18 yrs to one....not sure about the plaything part, but I really wouldn't advise marriage.
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Care to explain why?
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they are infatuated with blonds...other than that, I never felt like a plaything any more than with any other guy....it's the cultural differences that caused problems
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Wow there's some crazy reactions to this question! lol When I was working with Mexicans I had several friends not to date them because they either wanted someone to marry them for a green card or they wanted a mother to baby them. Those were stereotypes and sometimes stereotypes DO have a basis. I mean, not all Mexicans are like that of course, but I've dated four and they've all been the same. Not about the green card because nobody tries for that anymore. They want a mama. Maybe it's because they leave home so early and they're here with no family or friends. I don't know but the stereotype is not false! I don't care how "racist" that comes off as. As for middle eastern men, I don't know. I dated one when I was 17 who wanted to marry me and take me back to Iran. He was in college here, but couldn't wait to go back home. I think he would have probably been a loyal husband as long as I obeyed him, if you understand my meaning. But that doesn't mean they're all like that of course! There's just often a foundation of truth in stereotypes.
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THANK YOU, someone who realizes that I'm not a racist because I ask about the observed behavior of a large number of people belonging to one group. >.< I'm trying to explore why this "rumor" or "stereotype" exists. So far, no one has confirmed or denied anything.
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Of course you're not. There was little more than a century of Victorianism that culminated here in Beaver Cleaver and Clan. after all, yet it still lives on in no small number of places in this land. How much more persistent a way of thinking about such things that goes back before the Persian Empire, then? Modernity, after all, ceased to be its creature when the Arabs handed over to us the preserved works of the Attic Greeks and the then-newfangled concepts of 'zero' and algebra. The gulf which they face is vastly greater than anything dreamed of by some refugee from the Scopes Trial.Like (1)
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Well speaking from personal experience being familiar with the culture I'd say you'd probably need to be more choosy. Particularly if they're from an upbringing that was middle to lower class in the old world. The thing is many of them grow up being spoiled like brats by their mothers. For instance I had this one relative who's room looked like a hurricane swept through it if it weren't for his mom to clean up after him... and this went on well until his mid 20's. The higher class they are and better educated, more western experience they have the less this is true I would suspect... but there isn't a hard and fast rule to all of that. Mostly my own reading of them
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It would probably depend on how long he's been in the West. And his family would probably ob
ject, more because of cultural, and religious differences than your skin color. Then you have to deal with whether or not he came from a secular background. Lots of things to consider. Like (2)
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I don't think it's about skin color at all. It's definitely the culture. I just wondered if there was more to the common experiences I keep hearing about.
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I've heard and know of a few women who married middle eastern guys. The problems is that they expect you to conform to their culture.
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Not middle eastern, but I was involved with an East Indian guy for a time and his people tend to share cultural similarities with middle eastern folks, but I assure you trying to be accepted into their culture is likely more problematic than how he treated me. I don't know if its him being in the US since he was a kid, or how he was raised but he treated me very well and his current gf definitely wears the pants in the relationship. Far from a plaything...
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That gives me hope!!
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It's probably not like that with all middle east men. You just happen to know a few people who have had a bad experience with it. Don't write them all off yet.
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I never write anyone off until they have ruined the trust and respect I give them.
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Indeed. Hopefully you'll run into more people who've had the opposite experience.
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Hey, don't single out the Middle-Eastern guys on this one!
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I know men of all cultures do this, but I have been told by several who have had experience in that culture that this is the common outlook.
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Hi!
Thanks for your question! As a middle eastern man, I would say that the response to your question probably does not relate to race or religion, but it is a matter of personality. Certainly, a straight candid communication with out assuming the other person can read our minds would be a great clarification in removing misunderstanding between potential partners.
Whenever a man or a woman is dating someone, and some thing is wrong, I guess you will feel it strongly. In fact, our body and mind, as opposed to prejudice and stereotyping, is the best alarm when dealing with a mismatch, if we do not ignore them.
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Probably. And those who do were probably brought up to share their toys with their friends.
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Those guys are ignorant to the point that women in general are playthings to them. Young boys as well.
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If you're not a racist and you don't generalize, then you know this statement is false.
There are lots of messed up attitudes about women in the Middle East, but the idea of the scary foreigners seeing white women as theirs for the taking is an old racist stereotype.Like (1)
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I didn't imply "scary foreigners" or that they were "taking white women". Please don't twist the meaning in my question.
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I didn't mean to be accusatory - but the ideas are rooted in that kind of stereotype. That said I didn't read your question details too much. The more traditional parts of the Middle East probably aren't too keen on marrying non-Arabs, but it still happens quite a bit. The 'white women are playthings' idea probably applies to some people, but I wouldn't say it's a rule you can hold anyone to.
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Don't now about that.... I've had a lot of Middle Easterners wanting marriage, lol....
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Yeah, they *want* marriage... but when it comes to it, if their family doesn't approve of you, you get dropped. At least that's what has happened to some of the people I have spoken with about this.
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It's a widespread meme, yes, although the degree to which it's embraced is highly variable. Theirs is a civilization that is long fallen from power and still much resentful of this fact. It is also, in some large places, among vast multitudes, often remarkably backward. Modernity challenges it, offends it, and shames it.
There is no bigger symbol, of that part of modernity to which they've yet to even begin to build bridges, than our women. I've seen outrage and contempt for you, as well as for us at having "allowed" it, among more than one of them. Some are very good at hiding it, while others later bow to family pressure.
It's a consideration to which you would be ill-advised to close your mind. More than one woman has found herself forced to choose between her children and her (and their) freedom.Like (1)
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If its swinging then I doubt there is a culture barrier
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maybe
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Posted by bijouxbroussard Dec 30th, 2012 at 12:43AM
If you're talking about someone who has been "Americanised", that's one thing. But people who come from difficult cultures have different attitudes about men and women's roles, marriage and sex. That's just the way it is, it's not racist to acknowledge the fact, and it's definitely something to be considered before you start dating someone.
A culture that puts a high premium on the virginity of their own women, for example, perhaps wouldn't consider a woman from outside of that culture "marriage material".
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Reply by SpiritOfTheRabbit Dec 30th, 2012 at 12:55AM
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