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Do people think that you asking what they think of you is a lack of confidence when it really isn't?

I think people think that I am not super confident in myself sometimes...or something. But really I just want to know how I come across as to people because I find it interesting. And especially with a possible job or something important, I want to come across as someone good and confident. Yeah know? And I'm just simply curious. Why do you think people do this?

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    DivineStitches - 22-25 years old - female

    Posted by DivineStitches Jan 14th, 2013 at 11:25PM

    because it makes them feel important when u ask, which leads to them wanting to lower u even more to boost their feeling of importance.

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  1. foldedunfolding - female

    Reply by foldedunfolding Jan 14th, 2013 at 11:27PM

    exactly!!! i swear..i thought i was the only one who felt this way!!

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  2. eyeswideopen88 - 22-25 years old - female

    Reply by eyeswideopen88 Jan 14th, 2013 at 11:27PM

    Yeah, I agree. And it's ******* stupid.

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  1. foldedunfolding - 26-30 years old - female

    Posted by foldedunfolding Jan 14th, 2013 at 11:24PM

    omg!! i have had this happen to me so many times! people are so closed-minded that they think that if you merely ask if you appear confident, you aren't confident. it makes me think that they don't understand me at all! i love myself so much that it borders on narcissism at times.....so annoying.

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  2. SilentBluemoon - 31-35 years old - female

    Reply by SilentBluemoon Jan 14th, 2013 at 11:26PM

    You do rock.

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  3. SilentBluemoon - 31-35 years old - female

    Posted by SilentBluemoon Jan 14th, 2013 at 11:24PM

    I think we are all curious as to how people perceive us. It's a fair question.

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  4. Staley - 56-60 years old - female

    Posted by Staley Jan 14th, 2013 at 11:29PM

    People will always think that because those kinds of questions usually do indicate a lack of confidence in a person. As a matter of fact lots of people go through that stage and people's reactions are just a consequence of that kind of inward looking questioning. If you need to continue to do it but don't want those kinds of reactions perhaps you could arrange to discuss your concerns with a life coach or some other professional until you don't find it necessary anymore.

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  5. Hirafu - 41-45 years old - male

    Posted by Hirafu Jan 14th, 2013 at 11:27PM

    I'm quite confident but still get a little nervous before a job interview (well I used to when I still worked for other people). I found it helpful to go over things you would probably be saying in the interview with someone else beforehand. Interviews are like anything else, you get better at them with practice so it's worth practicing before heading into one. I'd prefer to do that with someone in the real world though than in a site like this.

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