Do self reliant people expect others to be self reliant too?

No, but I do get upset with people who don't at least try to be a bit self reliant...

No we don't--as a woman who has always been self-reliant--maybe to a fault--no we help people need help--willingly and happily--

I forget other people aren't capable of doing things for themselves like I have to (or are just too damned lazy)

Hmmm. Good question. My answer is a firm "yes and no". I'm pretty self-reliant, but I don't mind helping people one bit if they're in a jam. Sometimes life is hard and hurtful through no fault of one's own, so of course I'll help out if I can. But when I feel I'm being used, then I'm resentful. Some people's survival skills consist of taking the victim role and expecting other people to rescue them, look after them or give them things. If I feel I'm being used in this way, I tend to back off.

Everyone SHOULD be self reliant because you are ultimately the ONLY one you can trust without possibility of betrayal (to thine own self be true). But everyone ISN'T self reliant. SOME self reliant people tend to be rude, expecting that if THEY did it, then anyone can, forgetting that each person's abilities and experiences are all different from theirs. Other self reliant people recall the hard work it took and they sometimes take compassion on other, more underprivileged people who are not yet self reliant. It's more a matter of the particular self reliant person's character and personality and how that affects their disposition, more than whether they are self reliant themselves or not.

Yes it is obnoxious to have to tell my younger sister when she needs to use the bathroom.

It is obnoxious as ****.

Just so damn obnoxious.

no they're always willing to help others. but they usually are a bit arrogant

Yes I think so, people generally can not understand other people's perspective and will think that everyone should be like them. Not nessiarly in a negative just that it is really hard to understand other people and if you have not expereinced things or feelings yourself them it's really impossible to truely know what it is like.

Anyway I'm not sure what you mean by self reliant but if you mean people that are able to deal with their problems themselves or even actually if you mean financially then as one myself I would say yes I expect others to be as well. : )

From my experiences that is usually the case.

Let me go ask my boss and I'll get back to you on that.

Pending

I do sometimes, although most of the time I expect them to want something--money, a ride, food, etc. People that always have to have someone entertain them bugs the **** out of me because they come to me and say, "I'm bored." WTF! Go FIND something to do.

I think that many overcomers tend to be a bit impatient with those of us that have dawdled about. They adopt the "If I can do it, you can do it" attitude. Even in genuine kindness, they may stoop down to another and offer a helping hand not realizing that they are actually demeaning in their ways.

So the answer is yes. But unfortunately, they usually use a proud hand to communicate their expectations.

No, but sometimes it annoys us terribly when they're not!