Do you believe that some women "choose" to become lesbians when they don't succeed in hetero relationships?
18 Answers to "Do you believe that some women "choose" to become lesbians when they don't succeed in hetero relationships?"
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No, I don't, anymore than I think lesbians choose to become involved with men after failed relationships with women. Incidentally, it's often easier to attract men than women; lesbianism is not a default or fallback position for women who don't feel like men are interested in them. In any case, bisexuality is either an option in terms of your orientation or it isn't. A completely heterosexual woman would remain alone before she'd be with another woman; you can't "choose" to be sexually attracted when you're not.
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point well taken
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Sometimes I mean I met a few women like this....but they claim they are bi and when the one guy they like doesn't like them back or moves on they say I am lesbian and I am done with men!!!
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oi vey, i just dont get it! why cant they just admit to being bi lol
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Depends. For example I think men like to pick and choose who they want to be with.
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no you don t become gay. you are born that way.
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Only if they were bisexual to start with. It's certainly looking like an attractive prospect to me.
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having a hard time with men?
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Maybe some do. There is never an answer that will fit everyone.
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well said:)
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i think they have to be bi to start with..maybe not realizing it until they decide on a life changing move.
I can't imagine...just deciding to be interested in the same sex all of a sudden.
However i do think those woman make a decison that they have more in common with another woman...than a man..women think differently, process things differently, that has got to be less stressful to some.
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like it! thank you for sharing! you stated it very cogently:)
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I hope not. It's hard finding good lesbian and bisexual women as it is. I believe there are some who may consider it or play around after a bad hetero breakup, but I do not believe one can "choose" their sexual preferneces.
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well I'M a good bisexual woman! TADAAAA!!!
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I like to think I am as well. However, outside of the internet, we seem so few and far between, in my opinion. How is it for you?
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Yep I know two that couldn't seem to have successful relationship with guys. They found each other an have never been happier! I do suspect some are in denial while attempting hetero relationships an finally accept or realize what they want afterwards. Too bad that some are brainwashed by society an have to go thru many failed hetero relationship before they find themselves.
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great answer, thank you for the input:)
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obviously some do but its more of an emotional connection that dictates whom we love..
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i agree:)
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Yes.
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I actually had a coworker who admitted to doing that.
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so she became a full-blown lesbian? like, forever and always? i think it may happen in certain situations
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yes, her male relationships were so horrible that she eventually caved to a girl who had been trying to get her in bed for a while. And she's been a lesbian ever since.
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Not at all. That's the biggest crock of.. well you know.
I know lesbians who would put models to shame, and have guys falling all over themselves to be with them. They don't "choose" to become lesbians- they were born attracted to women and not men.Like (2)
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precisely! i have known some foin-a$$ lesbians in my day!!
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No. Just no.
Is it possible that they don't realise they're gay/are in denial, and that is why their hetero relationships always break down?
You can't become lesbian... you can change your lifestyle, and if you're bisexual that could work but if you're heterosexual, seriously, are you going to be able to shag women forever? Not gonna work...Like (2)
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could be..thank you for your response:)
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i think some do yes.
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I very much doubt that this happens often. Any woman who did so would have some serious self-esteem issues. To be honest, if a hetero relationship fails, it's more likely to be the guy's fault anyway.
Most of the lesbians I've known have been quite definite about their choice, and could in fact have taken their pick of men. It is true that after making the decision, some of the so-called "butch" type lesbians take deliberate steps to make themselves less attractive to men, but even they could still get a man if they wanted to.
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i have never dated so i cant give a very good answer.i dont believe i am choosing to be attracted to women.i think i am curious because i was exposed to it in high school and now in college.i will say that i have no problem at all befriending lesbians.i already find women very physically attractive,but i feel like it is becoming more than that since i became friends with a lesbian that i go to school with.
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Posted by SpilledSecrets Jun 17th, 2012 at 4:34PM
I'm sure there are a few out there who try that but I don't believe there are very many. I would guess that they were lesbian/bi to begin with and were just confused, not hetero women who just decided to become lesbian.
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Reply by foldedunfolding Jun 17th, 2012 at 4:39PM
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