i dont my wife was to soft and the kids did what they liked and talked to her badly. It always fell to me to spank and ground them
it was hard for me as i was spanked and beaten as a child and spanking them was upsetting but always a last resort if all else failed
i think them seeing me upset by it was just as painful as the punishment i always hugged them after and told them i loved them and they all turned out good
I have no problem with sticking to punishments, though they're rarely required.
But, why does your daughter have to check in with you when she's out with friends?
Well, I certainly agree that if she's told to check in she should and there should be consequences for not doing it. But, I do have a hard time understand the need for it, maybe because my mom never expected it from me. I had a lot of freedom and trust, I just had to call if I was running late.
i'm lucky, my boys don't need punishing
mine are quiet :) they stay home most of the time, and go out with friends less than once a month. and they're always home in time for dinner :)
checking in is good. for a hundred good reasons i can think of but also for a thousand i can't imagine.
oh it's not her. so many things could happen, and you wouldn't know, for hours. not good.