I wanted to be married when I was younger, because I equated that with having someone with whom to share life, but I found out my first husband was a sex offender and my second husband decided he didn't want to be around a child AFTER we were married, even though I already had one when we met, so he has spent more years working away from home than living AT home. Now that my son has grown up and moved out, my husband is seriously trying to find work close enough to live with me -- but sadly, I no longer want him here, but I don't have the guts to tell him. Do I want to be married? If there really were someone out there with whom I am compatible on an every day living together basis and I KNEW it for a fact, then yes, but I don't trust my ability to figure that out BEFORE the marriage, so probably if my current marriage ends, I am DONE.
I finally had that conversation with my husband and he says he is committed to changing the behaviors that bother me. He starts his local job next week, so we'll see how it goes!
I'm married now, but if we were to ever get divorced, this is it. I will never get married again because it's too much stress and marriage changes everything about that person you are with. I'd rather be with someone as a boyfriend rather than a husband. I'd probably not live with them though until I knew them for at least 5 years, and I'd probably not introduce them to my kids until I was ready for them to be ready. Kids are too precious and they get hurt faster than anyone of us, so it's very, very important to me that they are ready and will understand why I've decided to move on from their father. But really would never get married again because it's just not worth it in the end.
Marriage is hard work, and it's not always for everyone. My husband and I have a lot of problems, mainly his. We are separated, and he just recently decided that he wants to have an open relationship. However, his wishes are different from mine. He has a girlfriend and doesn't want me to have a boyfriend. It's like he wants his cake and eat too, but I'm not really that type of girl. He says that he loves me, but I'm starting to feel very different about him now. It's probably inevitable; we'll probably be divorced by the end of 2013. I don't really like sharing.
I've come to the conclusion that some men (and some women) are stupid and have no brains when it comes to relationships, and I think that they learn this from their families. It's a learned behavior, I swear it, because my father-in-law cheated on his mom when he was younger and now he's doing the same exact thing to me.
I would love to get married, if I found the right lady and she couls except me as me