Oh yes, money number one, not fair one pays more than the other. How important fidelity is to you both and what you both consider cheating.
I worked part-time, best of both worlds. They are only little once, so got to spend time with them, plus had my "days off" when I went to work and kept going with my career. Family helped as well. Full time child care is expensive. Also need to work out who will take time off if the children are ill, it was always me, in hindsight he could have done some. Just easier for me to take annual leave days at work here and there.
Whatever works out best for you all is what matters. Some parents can be so damn competitive and judgmental, avoid them if you can :)
Many! Especially if I were to ever consider marrying again. In addition to basic integrity, faithfulness, truthfulness, etc., I MUST have cleanliness in a mate! I don't mean no clutter, I mean washing one's hands -- REALLY washing one's hands after touching something disgusting. No using his fingers to clean out the kitchen sink drain -- which sees such things as raw chicken juice dumped down it and then just going on his way touching other things in the house. Yuck!
faithful and trust
Just to agree to always work things thro x