In small bites, while they are doing something else. I did chores with my boys and we would talk a lot at those times. I had twins with
That sounds familiar. You will have to be creative. Don't ask how was school. Ask did you see your friend today? I bet your were happy to see him. Was art class fun? Little bites at a time. Their minds race at a maddening pace if unmediated. My ped. Told me that one son was okay without but one needed it. I wouldn't do it for a long time. The doctor asked me to try it for one week and I agreed. The first day I did, the teacher called me before the kids could even walk home and asked me what happened to him. He finished all his work for the first time ever. He went from a F student to an honor roll student that year.
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