My wife and I are extremely different personalites. As they say opposites attract. What they don't tell you is that when they come together it is a clash. At first, our differences made us interesting... fascinating even, to each other. But, eventually, it left us each feeling alone and misunderstood. That is when our desire to see the other "change" started coming into things.

For 17 years, my wife, being the type of person she is, continually worked tirelessly to change me into someone more like herself. While at the same time, I, being the person I am, patiently waited for her to grow and "change" into someone more like me.

We have been together for almost 20 years now... And we are both still as opposite one another as we ever were. The good news is, we compliment eachothers life skills. The bad news is that we both feel rather alone and misunderstood by eachother.

I guess that, based on my personal experience and observations, I would have to say that the short answer to your question is a simple "no".

Unfortunately no. You marry someone as they are, good qualities and not so good qualities. You don't marry based on potential. People are not projects, especially someone you love. If you didn't receive intimacy while dating, or during marriage it's not going to change out of the blue years from now.

NO I HAVE KNOWN MY HUSBAND FOR 10 YRS N HE HAS NOT CHANGE YET AT ALL HE IS MORE STUBBORN THEN HE WAS FIVE YRS AGO LOL N WE R LIKE NITE N DAY HE WON'T CALL UNLESS HE NEED SOMETHING N ROMANCE FOR HIM IS F^^KING N GIVIN ME MONEY SO N ME IT IS JUST BEING THERE SO TRUST ME YR SPOUSE WONT CHANGE!! NYC SENDING LOVE TO YALL!!

As it was said before...opposites attract, but they also clash (the usually unmentioned side of it). My wife and I loved each other and married because of how much we were alike. The main difference is sex...I want to be sexually intimate as much as possible, and she doesnt want to be hardly at all. It is the rest of our relationship that keeps us going. We are the best of friends and very compatible, we just go good and work well together. I dont think that anyone has the right to change anyone else. True love is about acceptance, patience, and tolerance. People can and do change with age, time, and experience...but it should be a natural change and of a personal decision. You shouldnt get with someone because of what you want them to be....you'll end up sorely disappointed.

no , after 22yrs with my husband i can tell you they only seem to get more distance and you get more alone.

Yes, a spouse can.

I was the one that needed to change. Earlier this year I woke up!

People dont change they just get worse as time goes on unless it is by divine intervention. Pray for it!!!

You can't change someone

Its hard for anyone to change on the drop of a dime when they have taken there whole life to get to a certain point. Anything is possible but some things are just unlikely. Best wishes...

no a snowballs chance lol love him the way he is sometimes hehe

Well - yes, he will.
But not with me .... I swear to god he has more lust for a fishing pole than me!

I think that you should not marry someone if you think you can change them....you should love them for who they are. If you are having problems sexually you should talk to your spouse and find out what the problem is you can work out anything that you want to.

Totaly .....no.....they never change, and if you try to change them you will lose them, they are what they are when you signed on with them.
Lea

Yes. But I had to leave for him to be able to. Now both of us can become who we are, instead of who we thought the other wanted/needed. I hope we both change back into an evolved version of who we were when we met.

Yes I do...We both had to change.Now we're getting better and better everyday...Praise God!

if it's for the better then yes.. but it takes years... and it's just your job to love them through and through.. regardless of the situation and how long change may take..