Do you think it's inconsiderate or Okay to spend your money on a marriage and having kids instead of helping out a niece
or nephew whose parents aren't there for them and need your help? In my opinion it's best to help family get on their feet before starting your own, I just want to see others views.
7 Answers to "Do you think it's inconsiderate or Okay to spend your money on a marriage and having kids instead of helping out a niece"
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I would help my family first
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Good thinking
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Its a niece....Its not a "direct" family so i guess it depends on the situation and the relationship between the niece/nephew and the person who is marrying. If they were close then i say yes. If it jus any niece/nephew then i would go on with my agenda first.
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i'm guessing this isn't about your own marriage and kids.
i am not going to put my own life on hold for the sake of somebody else's daughter. i'd probably let her come and live with us after the wedding, if that makes you feel any better.
was she a junky, by any chance?Like (1)
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No dear. She was abused and abandoned by her parents and put in foster homes. When she went to her aunt for help, the aunt puts plans for a wedding and having kids before her. This girl is an amazing hard working college student who deserves a good family life.
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It depends. There isn't enough information here for me to say what I would do. Is the niece a child or an adult? Is the potential helper emotionally able to help this niece/nephew? What does their spouse say? What kind of help is needed? Is this a lifetime commitment? How would it affect the helper's own children?
Edit: Oh, there are no children or spouse yet?Like (1)
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She needs emotional support and only financial support incase of an emergency. A hard working college student. I'm helping her out because she was in foster care.
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Aww, bless you!
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It's OK. You should only help if you want to.
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If you do that, how do you keep a healthy family bond with the niece or nephew?
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You just be available but if that neice or nephew isn't willing to deal with your decision, then you can't.
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this doesn't need to be asked-kids
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well dear I saw this happen at my church and the poor girl ended up suicidal.
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Posted by Pumpkinseeds Jun 13th, 2012 at 4:42PM
I agree with you. If there is someone who has no one to help them the family with the money should help them to get on their feet, then they can think about starting their family. Always treat others the way you would like yourself to be treated. That's what I would say.
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Reply by AncientTurkey Jun 13th, 2012 at 5:04PM
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Reply by Pumpkinseeds Jun 13th, 2012 at 5:22PM
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